"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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spesmilitis

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Everyone i know whose done good in wrestling has some kind of chronic injury. You'll definatly get something messed up. But, its also one of the funnest things to do. Theirs alotta technique in wrestling. . . .beating someone who is physcically stronger than you by technique is an awesome feeling. To me, its worth the injuries.

I've only done bjj btw, but we learn wrestling techniques in it. I wish I wrestled in hs
 

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Life is dangerous. Cars kill more people than wrestling.

But then again I saw a kid break his neck at a tournament, and I shattered my own thumb so badly it needed an experimental surgery. (If you go out for the team, learn to shoot takedowns with your thumbs pressed against your index finger; this keeps it from catching on the other guy and breaking.)

imo, learning the fundamentals of grappling on a hs wrestling team is an excellent foundation for whatever self-defense skills you develop later in life. People who can wrestle tend to fight well; ufc champs and finalists often have grappling backgrounds.
 

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I wrestled in high school. 6'0 215 ibs. Boi did i get hurt sometimes, mostly twisting joints and pulling muscles.

But it made me hella flexible which allowed me not to get into serious injurys.

As for statistics, juss tell your parents to let you do it, and at the first sign of any serous injury youll quit.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wrestling is a great sport. Just make sure you don't be stupid. Tell your parents to cool down.
 

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Yea, my parents wouldn't let me have a skateboard when I was a kid because they thought I would break my arm. However, they let me play high school football and wrestling. Makes total sense to me :confused:

Anyway, I know a few peeps who got injured during wrestling, but nothing life altering. I broke a kid's nose once with a cross face and another kid's ribs during a tournament. Shyt happens, man. Just be the one delivering the pain.
 

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dude you'll be fine...the thing about wrestling is you wrestle against people of similar weight...just give it a try
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Berlex said:
dude you'll be fine...the thing about wrestling is you wrestle against people of similar weight...just give it a try
exactly. don't let a coach talk you into getting too skinny...not worth it. that's how my bro messed up his shoulder--ironically, driven into the mat by some jerk from my high school (we went to different schools). like any contact sport, there are coaches out there that will tell their wrestlers to go after somebody to mess 'em up. but if you're sensible and don't go too skinny you'll be fine (you'll have to figure out that threshold for yourself).
 

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Show them injury statistics for car crashes, other sports, anything common and every day. Pull the smartass routine and be like "well since we're getting all worried about injuries now, i guess i'll have to walk. Oh wait, never mind here are some stats on pedestrians getting ran over. I guess I'll stay home. Oh no, heres stats on people who have died in their own house."

:)
 

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If you can't do wrestling or bjj, here is something awesome you can do:

Get jui-jitsu instructional videos from bittorent, youtube, google videos, dc, ect, and get a few jui-jitsu intructional books from your bookstore (like boarders), and practice em with you and your friends. Look for ways to improve you techniques, and discover new ones. You can practice anywhere with proper cushining, such as a tarp or a lawn. This is a great way to get good on the ground, and its pretty common among people who can't train at a regular dojo.

You will also learn ground skills for wrestling. Even though you can't do it now, your parents definatly won't be able to stop you by the time you're a junior.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I wouldnt suggest that. Without a trained professional, your chance for injuries go up tremendously. Besides, how do you know if you're doing it 100% correct.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
I wouldnt suggest that. Without a trained professional, your chance for injuries go up tremendously. Besides, how do you know if you're doing it 100% correct.
We'll as long as you aren't rolling with a maniac, not doing any stand up, and not doing any foot/knee locks, your chance of injury is really low. I probably should've have mentioned that when I reccomended you guys roll.

about doing it 100% correct. . . .unless you're atleast a purple belt, you'll always be doing something wrong. Theirs like an infinate amount of details to learn about in every technique. I roll with trained perfessionals, and I know im probably doing stuff wrong, otherwise I wouldn't be a white belt.

Through rolling and practicing, your skill can only improve.
 

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That is true. I, personally, would rather have an instructor than be reading a book.
 
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