"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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that's why i said an average looking guy, not an average guy. an average looking guy who has rizz, style, social proof/preselection, wealth, status, etc can absolutely slay on dating apps if he has pics that showcase this. showing real (not fabricated) preselection alone can bump a 5/10 man to a 9/10 instantly.

my friend had a pic recently that showcased this, i can ask him for it if ya'll really want to see it, it was a pic of him laying down in the bow of a nice looking boat/yacht, wearing stylish and expensive clothes and sunglasses, with hot women in the edge frame you cannot fully see. he also seemed extremely relaxed and nonchalant, like he didn't give a fck about them. that picture alone creates incredible intrigue and preselection that will make women's gina tingle. yall understimate the power of photos like that.

maybe i can't make a comparison to how well a low-effort Chad would do in comparison, but i will maintain that the the qualities i mentioned are extremely powerful. but the sad reality is that Chads are far more likely to have all of those other traits anyway since being extraordinarily good looking generally causes the world to fall into your lap, so naturally they will show things like wealth and preselection in their photos anyway, but i don't think people are acknowledging all the invididual components that go into this.
Id be keen to see the pic mate, for sure. :up:
Pm it to me if you prefer.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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All of this dating app talk from guys who are afraid to step out and approach women in real life. :lol:
I was in a club last night and approached about 10 women. All mid. all the most decent looking chicks were already paired up with dudes in the place. :(:cry:

before that I’d had an app date at 8pm.
And another app date at 11pm at that club.
both women were subpar catfishers also so waste of time both. Meh.

Cold approaching don’t always work out either…
 

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I wasn't backpedaling I was making that point to show why this causes confusion. And I wouldn't say that a Chads photos will automatically be good no matter what, a Chad could take photos that are so bad that he would cease to be a Chad even if he was in the top 1% of looks.

The part people are missing in the case of these tinder experiments specifically is that they're getting the photos from POPULAR public places, they probably are literally googling "male model" or "male influencer", and using the first results, which basically guarantees the guy will be confident, popular, wealthy, nice clothes, social proof, and a plethora of professional photos to pick from which showcase all of these qualities...

I bet if someone did another tinder experiment where they sourced the photos of a Chad from somewhere obscure place like a 4chan thread where the guy was some autistic/anti social doomer/gooner weirdo, the results would be VERY different.
come on now.. don’t be tryna propose scenarios that will never ever happen. (Bolded bits)

It doesn’t matter the quality of Chads pics.
his cranio-facial features and good genetics are there to see regardless of it’s low quality dirty mirror selfie .chad knows what his selling points are and will display his value.

don’t be kiddin yo self.
hard coping here mate..
 

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come on now.. don’t be tryna propose scenarios that will never ever happen. (Bolded bits)

It doesn’t matter the quality of Chads pics.
his cranio-facial features and good genetics are there to see regardless of it’s low quality dirty mirror selfie .chad knows what his selling points are and will display his value.

don’t be kiddin yo self.
hard coping here mate..
A lot of the time it is just leanmaxxing, not genetics.

Going out drinking every night like you're doing, has I'm sure covered your features with several lbs of excess fat just in your face.

I think you need to MonkModemaxx for a few weeks.

(6'2" here, 31" waist, just been repping weighted pull ups +55lbs.)
 

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A lot of the time it is just leanmaxxing, not genetics.

Going out drinking every night like you're doing, has I'm sure covered your features with several lbs of excess fat just in your face.

I think you need to MonkModemaxx for a few weeks.

(6'2" here, 31" waist, just been repping weighted pull ups +55lbs.)
lol at the assumptions.

Last 4 months I’ve been celibate dude ..just back on the prowl 3 weeks ago :D
But yeah I’m feeling the nights out already for sure .that is correct re the boozing effects.
Not much tho …… yet !
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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@UK manc yoi have been inspiring me to look at fitness and gym tho so thanks.
Been tryna smash the swims at the 50m pool lately and getting ideas to take up Boxing. :up:

also tried to find a very funny viral fitness video I recalled from a few years back and post it up for ya
It was some Asian American dude (I think) doing the funniest insane circuit at a gym , mad push-ups and twists and **** , like super strength gymnastics using the machines ..it was gold :rofl: I he looked like a soldier maybe . Does it ring a bell?
I couldn’t find on google searches .
 

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A lot of the time it is just leanmaxxing, not genetics.
I missed that first read.
Now you are also coping hard ,..with poor FlexpertH.:lol:

it’s cranio-facials dude. Bone structure and skull. lean maxxing doesn’t change facial ratios .
 

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A lot of the time it is just leanmaxxing, not genetics.

Going out drinking every night like you're doing, has I'm sure covered your features with several lbs of excess fat just in your face.

I think you need to MonkModemaxx for a few weeks.

(6'2" here, 31" waist, just been repping weighted pull ups +55lbs.)
fair point

as an example, Brad Pitt at 1.8. m was 70kg in fight club. And that is really good form for a guy. Maybe add a couple more kgs of muscle you can not be more than 75kg at that height, and that only if you are super muscular

Being super lean is very important for improving your attractiveness

even girls, if she is 1.70 her ideal weight is somewhere between 50 and 58 kgs. Over 60 kg she starts being a bit fat and over 65kg she is fat

unless she is an athlete and has big muscles, but in the vast majority of cases that is not the case

you can go bigger, like Christian bale in American psycho or Batman begins, but that guy was full of muscles and never weighted more than 85kgs at 1.83. But you have to have a really healthy and train all the time
To keep that physique
 
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