"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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it seems there is an infestation of idiots with useless advice... bumping up stupid threads that just died... and other things that are ruining that section.

is there ANYTHING that could be done? i don't know if they're trolls, but their names are not unique at all... and it seems like the same person is using the same style of names. examples such as: mybackhurts, slightoverbite, bigbacneproblem, lvl20darkmage, myhandhurts. some are real, some are names i made up just now.

do SOMETHING!

they're either trolls, are plain idiots like GrandWizardAlamar
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ElStud

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Speak for yourself, you're one of them.
 

TheVirtualMind

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Michele, trust me, you are preaching to the choir. There is only so much us (mods) can do. We can close redundant, useless, pointless, and just plain idiot threads, but we can't force people to learn.

We are trying our best though.

ElStud - Warning for harassment.
 

ElStud

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TheVirtualMind said:
Michele, trust me, you are preaching to the choir. There is only so much us (mods) can do. We can close redundant, useless, pointless, and just plain idiot threads, but we can't force people to learn.

We are trying our best though.

ElStud - Warning for harassment.
I didn't harass him. I'm telling it like it is, he always comes up in my threads posting useless stuff that has nothing to do with the topic and he calls a bunch of others trolls. I just think it's sort of hypocritical.
 

TheVirtualMind

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ElStud said:
I didn't harass him. I'm telling it like it is, he always comes up in my threads posting useless stuff that has nothing to do with the topic and he calls a bunch of others trolls. I just think it's sort of hypocritical.
Considering the people he was calling ARE trolls...

I just cleaned up the HS forum a bit.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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