"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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High school friend's recontacted me

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bob2007

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I suppose the ball's in my court now I suppose. This girl I used to like / may have liked me in high school's recontacted me through hi5.com (kinda like myspace w/ more restrictions I think). Now, I'm graduating from university now, 3 years later.

We were never friends, but there my have been some attraction, she flirted a lot with me (I was afc). So I think I have a decent chance with her. I've got a pic on that site too - I suppose she likes what she sees.

Anyway, here's what I've thought about proceeding.

1. Give her my msn on the hi5.com site.
2. Talk on msn, build rapport, get number
3. Call and ask her out.
4. All before end of June when I get the house all to myself for a week.

I think this way, I can build rapport and then get number as opposed to just asking for it out of the blue.

Any advice would be good. Especially rapport building convo, we never had any good conversations that I recall from highschool. It was always boring fluff talk.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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For sure, but, as I said we were never friends so I don't know why she would bother contacting me for other reasons.

Man's gotta plan : ).
 
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I'd just get her contact info and "catch up" in person. If you like what you see and there is some chemistry then ask her out after that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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