"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This Friday I have a day off and no school, so I'm going practising approaches. Can you guys propose me a good challenge? Note that at my level, I still have troubles opening the girl since I have anxiety all the time. I have trouble approaching instantly as I see the girl and I end up thinking too much. It works, but I never do it after 3 seconds, but I do my approach after thinking at least for 5-10 minutes, or more...
What should I practice saying that is not too easy but not too hard? It has to be something else than asking for what time it is, but I'm not feeling confident enough to ask for sex.
Thanks guys!
Don't worry about full approaches, maybe you should try to numb your aa/bb by first doing suicide approaches. My favorite is: "Hey, I'm into you, and I'm hard", or you could say: "Hey babe, wana party?", another good one is: wave your hand in front of your face really fast and say "Hey, you can't see me!".Mindgamez said:
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Every person is different, but I love the "so dumb it's funny" approach. I go around pointing to people and saying to other people "This is X" or pointing to myself and saying "This is Amo". I originally started doing this so I'd remember people's names better (I'm horrible with names), but it turns out it's a really good opener.Mindgamez said:
Another favorite at parties is when I see people I don't know, usually chicks, with friends of mine, I'll go up to my friends and fake-whisper "who the f*ck are they?" with a stupid grin on my face. Or I'll go directly up to them and say "who the f*ck are you?". It usually tends to work.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Yeee.Jack Wealthy said:
I plan on trying "Do you think I'm hot?" next chance I get.
Golden.LearningSlowly said:
If you wanted to turn it into an opener you could transition with:
"Perfect, I think you're adorable too, now that we have a connection, I can ask you a serious question..."
"Good, you're not my type; now that we've established that I'm not attracted to you, I can ask you a serious question..."
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Thats sweet, looking forward to this whole thing.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Lets hope you get that far.The Libertine said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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And by the way thanks for the suggestions about the approaches. The suicide approach thing is too difficult for me for now. I have to get used to easier stuff and build my way up I guess. Pulling the trigger is becoming easier and easier the more steps I take, even if they are baby steps.
I really hope this bootcamp will help benefit everyone of us. Thanks for creating it. A year back, I would never have got the guts to do this thing. I'm so proud that I changed. I'm ready to feel scared, I'm ready to face rejection, I'm ready to push my comfort zone, I'm ready to feel pain. I'm ready to, become the real man I was meant to be.
Woohoo, I'm so pumped up haha.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.