"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This Friday I have a day off and no school, so I'm going practising approaches. Can you guys propose me a good challenge? Note that at my level, I still have troubles opening the girl since I have anxiety all the time. I have trouble approaching instantly as I see the girl and I end up thinking too much. It works, but I never do it after 3 seconds, but I do my approach after thinking at least for 5-10 minutes, or more...
What should I practice saying that is not too easy but not too hard? It has to be something else than asking for what time it is, but I'm not feeling confident enough to ask for sex.
Thanks guys!
Don't worry about full approaches, maybe you should try to numb your aa/bb by first doing suicide approaches. My favorite is: "Hey, I'm into you, and I'm hard", or you could say: "Hey babe, wana party?", another good one is: wave your hand in front of your face really fast and say "Hey, you can't see me!".Mindgamez said:
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Every person is different, but I love the "so dumb it's funny" approach. I go around pointing to people and saying to other people "This is X" or pointing to myself and saying "This is Amo". I originally started doing this so I'd remember people's names better (I'm horrible with names), but it turns out it's a really good opener.Mindgamez said:
Another favorite at parties is when I see people I don't know, usually chicks, with friends of mine, I'll go up to my friends and fake-whisper "who the f*ck are they?" with a stupid grin on my face. Or I'll go directly up to them and say "who the f*ck are you?". It usually tends to work.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Yeee.Jack Wealthy said:
I plan on trying "Do you think I'm hot?" next chance I get.
Golden.LearningSlowly said:
If you wanted to turn it into an opener you could transition with:
"Perfect, I think you're adorable too, now that we have a connection, I can ask you a serious question..."
"Good, you're not my type; now that we've established that I'm not attracted to you, I can ask you a serious question..."
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Thats sweet, looking forward to this whole thing.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Lets hope you get that far.The Libertine said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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And by the way thanks for the suggestions about the approaches. The suicide approach thing is too difficult for me for now. I have to get used to easier stuff and build my way up I guess. Pulling the trigger is becoming easier and easier the more steps I take, even if they are baby steps.
I really hope this bootcamp will help benefit everyone of us. Thanks for creating it. A year back, I would never have got the guts to do this thing. I'm so proud that I changed. I'm ready to feel scared, I'm ready to face rejection, I'm ready to push my comfort zone, I'm ready to feel pain. I'm ready to, become the real man I was meant to be.
Woohoo, I'm so pumped up haha.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.