She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Jack Wealthy said:Love you Josh![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Good question. It seems NDJ was the only one to complete the challenge this week (I plan to finish tomorrow, using a "Free Hugs" tactic).Mindgamez said:Am I still allowed to put the challenge for next week? I promise that I will do it, but I'll take a little more time maybe.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You mean late Tuesday?Mindgamez said:Alright, I'll post the challenge this evening.
All I see are a bunch of weak excuses from a bunch of weak boys. Don't you feel bad? Don't you feel like you've lost? All you're doing is delaying the inevitable. Your AA is what is making you procrastinate, and just because it got NDJ to extend the deadline, doesn't mean it is right. We started this bootcamp with a goal, and I think we should stick to it. No slacking off. All this is doing is making us weaker. I understand that some have environmental issues blah blah blah. This is no excuse, this is life. Life happens. Don't have enough time to finish the week? Well then you'll have to finish it up while the next one is going. I do not support extending the deadline, I feel like it is the weak-man's way out.NorwegianDJ said:Post next weeks challenge over 2 weeks. Each challenge may last 2 weeks, but each challenge will also overlap 1 week. Does this make sense? You are effectively allowed more time, but over the same amount of time. Lifehacks.
Yup.AlexLefty said:Don't you feel bad? Don't you feel like you've lost? All you're doing is delaying the inevitable. Your AA is what is making you procrastinate, and just because it got NDJ to extend the deadline, doesn't mean it is right.
Thank you.LearningSlowly said:Yup.
Congrats on success in field, congrats on the number.
I went out today but got nothing more than a warm up approach. I will say that I didn't see a single girl my age, but that's no excuse. I have failed my own week, at 3/7. I'll finish tomorrow.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.