"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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High school don juan bootcamp week 7: Making new friends

eastcoast15

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Hey guys, I'm super sorry about putting this off so long. Completely blew it.


That being said heres the challenges I'm laying down for you. They're a bit outside the box compared to the stuff before where it was like APPROACH APPROACH APPROACH.

So because all you guys are currently in high school and hopefully you're out there and getting social in class. By being social in class you're gonna be meeting the people that you might not necessarily ever meet outside of that because of the people you hang out with outside of class.

Obviously the first challenge if you haven't been doing this yet is to push yourself to be more social in class and talk to people. It might be awkward for some of you but if you've been doing the bootcamp up to this point then this is gonna be super super easy for you.

Some easy examples would be

Asking a girl about how she did on the test
What shes doing this weekend
Ask a dude you don't know about the game for us in Canada hockey is always a topic thats gonna get **** going

Its super easy stuff to do so thats the first challenge, just keep pushing yourself to meet people.

The next challenge revolves around leadership. I want you to get some friends together and organize a event. Even if its going lawn bowling or building kites (if thats what you're into you weird ****er) you need to try your best to bring your social group together. Ideally you might have made some new friends in class where you're just “classroom friends” and you could invite them along to make the transition from class friends to chill outside of school friends. Thats asking a lot to do in 10 days and if you've just met them it might be weird inviting them out right away but assuming your vibes are chill it shouldn't be a issue.

The key is for you to get some experience organizing something and forcing yourself into a leadership role. Depending on how advanced you are you might start to notice what types of personalities click and what groups you can bring together well. But don't worry about it too much if thats a bit over your head for now.

I have a little story as an example of how I'm constantly pushing my social circle which is what you need to do if you wanna get to the next level.

So the other day I was sitting in class with a fairly new friend who I had met from being friendly. He invited me out with some people who I knew I hadn't met before but had seen their faces in class. I was superrr tired and I wanted to pass out once class finished but I knew I had a opportunity to meet some new people who I see all the time. So I sucked it up and went for wings and pitchers with a bunch of people I had never met before. You NEED to recognize these chances and take advantage of them when you have the chance.

BONUS POINTS if you throw a big party where everyone has a awesome time because that alone is a skill to have. I wanna hear some good stories about the events you organized. (Norwegian DJ if you dont organize a 500 person party you fail :p)

So thats the challenges for the week, its a bit different than the classic PUA but I think its for the better because these actually apply to dudes in high school.

So to recap
1. Get more social in class and make friends who are outside your usual social circle.
2. Organize a social event where you bring as many friends out as possible to have a fun time. Ideally invite the people who you met outside your social circle.
Good luck guys
- Eastcoast
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LearningSlowly

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Sorry mate, I find it hard to tell if I've completed 1. Haven't had class this past week but was very social. Whatever, it'll be easy to complete next week, but I still see it as very broad.

2 is more concrete. I think I can make that happen.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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mind

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Sorry guys, was afk because of exams, but I'm looking forward to this challenge, looks great
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Libertine

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My birthday is on Friday and because of limited funds I can only gather around 30 people. Anyway,I think that counts for 2.
And I'm really social and I'm constantly meeting new people so 1. was completed.

Anyway,I get the feeling that this bootcamp is officially dead.
 

NorwegianDJ

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Completed sunday 2-3 weeks ago when I invited 10 people to my house. The bootcamp shall continue shortly, I just need to get home.
 
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