"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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High-school culture differences

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LearningSlowly

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You're automatically exclusive after one date?

I don't think that's true, and when you meet some more mature girls and you still hold that belief, you'll be in for a rude wake up.
 

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I feel like this is in response to my sarging post.
LearningSlowly said:
You're automatically exclusive after one date?

I don't think that's true, and when you meet some more mature girls and you still hold that belief, you'll be in for a rude wake up.
Agreed, it just seems too weird.
 

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That's only true if the two girls know each other. I probably wouldn't ask out one girl in my class, then ask out another one for the next week, just because it demonstrates a lack of selectiveness.

But you NEED to start seeing multiple girls. YOU HAVE TO if you want to be successful. It doesn't have to be an every weekend sort of thing, but you need more than one sexualized option.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yea you're speaking a load of bull****. I know several people in the UK, a few in London of course and what you're talking about is definitely not a London thing.
 

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Being honest to myself I posted this as an excuse more than anything else. Although what I said is 100% true that I'd be frozen out by girls if they found out that I was dating more than one, I know personally that I could possibly do it and get away with it. Stay tuned for a journal when I get my courage up to get started...
 
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