Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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High-school culture differences

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LearningSlowly

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You're automatically exclusive after one date?

I don't think that's true, and when you meet some more mature girls and you still hold that belief, you'll be in for a rude wake up.
 

AlexLefty

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I feel like this is in response to my sarging post.
LearningSlowly said:
You're automatically exclusive after one date?

I don't think that's true, and when you meet some more mature girls and you still hold that belief, you'll be in for a rude wake up.
Agreed, it just seems too weird.
 

LearningSlowly

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That's only true if the two girls know each other. I probably wouldn't ask out one girl in my class, then ask out another one for the next week, just because it demonstrates a lack of selectiveness.

But you NEED to start seeing multiple girls. YOU HAVE TO if you want to be successful. It doesn't have to be an every weekend sort of thing, but you need more than one sexualized option.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yea you're speaking a load of bull****. I know several people in the UK, a few in London of course and what you're talking about is definitely not a London thing.
 

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Being honest to myself I posted this as an excuse more than anything else. Although what I said is 100% true that I'd be frozen out by girls if they found out that I was dating more than one, I know personally that I could possibly do it and get away with it. Stay tuned for a journal when I get my courage up to get started...
 
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