High quality problem - Can there be to much kino?

[skinnydart]

So until recently, I had never had gf or even a date. Thanks to you guys that has all changed.

I've known this girl for a month, gone out 6 times or so. On the 2nd date I laid on some kino, like just putting my arm around her during the movie. She was very receptive to it, basicly she just took my hand at that point, like she had been waiting to the whole time.

The next date we went up on the Blue Ridge Parkway and had a picnic, then hiked for a while. Basicly the whole afternoon was spent either holding her hand or with our arms around eachother.

Now whenever we are, in class, jor ust walking to lunch, if I'm not already holding her hand she'll just initiate it and take my hand. (which I don't mind at all) but we're never together and not touching in some way.

So the question is this: is it possible for there to be to much kino? Should it only be used as a reward or at least more sparingly? Is there any downside to there being constant kino whenever we're together?

I know all that stuff about "a woman wants what is scarce" or a "woman wants what she cannot have" but does this apply to kino as well?

 

[diablo]

I generally touch whatever girl I'm with frequently; then again I guess I'm just a touchy-feely kind of person. Some girls actually don't like it, some girls really do. As a basic rule, though, I'd say use kino as much as you're comfortable with - be careful that you don't overanalyze every small detail of this (and any other) relationship... some things are meant to be "natural" and not pre-planned...

 

[christz]

any girl that says she doesn't like you touching her, ya know arm around her etc.. is lieing, i mean sure most girls don't like PDA, makeing out at a line for a movie or a roller coster.

but they do like when you touch them put your arm around them etc.. i do it frequently with a girl i'm intrested in and funny the girls that say they don't like it give it right back to you by doing the same

 

[skinnydart]

Well, it's obvious that she likes the kino, but she also likes talking to me, but that doens't mean I should call her 4 times a day... see what I'm getting at?

So is this something I should just not worry about and use it sparingly or just give her all she wants?

 

[christz]

don't worry about it, if it concerns you that much tone it down a little bit.

but the calling her on the phone 4 times a day is a totally different thing then kino. I don't even wanna talk to my best friends that much in one day hah

 

[ScrewIt]

Kino isnt something you should be worried about. It's only a problem if you make it one. If anything, more Kino brings more positive results than does little kino.

the part with "they want what's scarce" well it usually applies to how often you keep in touch with her or see her.

Just keep up the good work and remember to have a life of your own too, dont expect to be able to see or talk to her daily.

 

[Luveno]

Stop thinking about it.

Stop giving it a name.

Be natural.