"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Higene

Brian20o2

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I think that this subject is not spoken about as much as it should. I mean all the attitude and ideas around being a DJ would be nearly useless if you smell like BO. Now im not really asking for advice, just input (theres a difference?) haha. I think of myself as a clean guy i shave, shower daily and if i dont i feel like sh*t. I dont let my body hair get out of controll etc.

Are there any other things that are important for higene and that stuff?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alphathree

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I dance a lot so women are always inspecting me closely. Things I worry about include (just remember, you asked for it):

-- bad breath/teeth/anything in your mouth at all
-- nose hair, or hair of any kind in odd places
-- NAILS clean and cut
-- clothes not wrinkled
 

diablo

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It's spelled "Hygiene", and it belongs in H&F.

The reason it's not spoken about much is because it's generally assumed by most civilized people that everyone already knows how to do it. :rolleyes: I mean, honestly - what's so difficult about taking a shower, using soap, brushing your teeth, clipping your nails, shampooing, shaving, using deodorant, and washing your clothes after wearing them? Unless you just walked out of the jungle you should have been doing all of the above since you were a little kid.
 
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