"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It's Crusader. I called it first!!! I win,hee hee.

Dude,what is this....your third or fourth surname? Trying to get rid of Crusader is like trying to exterminate roaches:just when you think you've got them all,another one crawls out of the woodwork.
 
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Well, I start off with a question. After reading this thread, http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=159291 , I could relate to alot about it's talk of lack of a social and sex life, years gone bye, getting over this seems to be my biggest challenge to getting towards success. So my question is, how do I get over it, esp when it feels so in my face every day? Also, I realize just how fvcked up my mindset has been over all of this, everything from women,dating,and sex, to guidance and a path in life,and reaching goals.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Walking vagina!!!! Their Everywhere!!!!

(until you get serious, nobody will take you serious. And that's not even a guarantee.)
 
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I know. I have to get serious about doing this. As for the walking vagina comment, it's true. I have given in too much to this emotional stress, and it is all I can think about, to the point where it is killing my psyche, holding me back, and causing me misery, whilst everyone else so seemingly happily succeeds. Instead of fixing the problem,I use(d) it as a crutch for attention, or thought someone else could fix it.
 
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I mean, I realize something I have been holding back. It's this social thing, and trying to get the girls I want to get, but not knowing how, or hiding that I want to fvck them, but w/o coming off as a pervert or immature. This is all stuff I either didn't learn or wasn't taught.
 
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You dont realize shyt, dude.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Oh so that's who you were. Since you found my thread, why not fallow some of the advice I was given. I'm sure some of it can apply to you. You don't really need to make a thread about the same thing.
 
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Holy **** Caped... are you really this dense? How many times will you ask the same ****ing question? You have a hundred million posts where people gave you the same advice repeatedly... go look at those.
 
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Don't be mean to him! We are all on the same team, he deserves to be on this forum. What a bunch of repressed meanies you guys are! Guyinneed i will be your friend on this forum. Shame on you guys for making fun of him for being diffrerent.

SHAME!
 
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Yes, I really am this dense. Why I keep doing this? Idk, just to let it out. I just can't initiate things, I get so ovewhelmed, I lose focus. I know you can't help me on here. So I need professional help.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hey whoa, I don't need a defend my honor thing ok. I am not trying to be mr.sensitive guy either, fvck that. But my problem has been this depression/emotional thing, and instead of getting real help, I post on here. I am not like this in real life, although there have been times when I have been annoying. Thing is, I don't go around seeking attention.
 
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I mean, I am either just not attractive enough to the girls I like, or I have so little experience, I wouldn't know the signs, like the "fvck me eyes" and all that. But, I realize don't be a doormat, know when to say no, don't do everything for her, don't be clingy, don't over do it with romance stuff,etc. I mean, I am or have been so focused on the outcome in life, it has taken over me. I know no one is perfect, but I have struggled along.
 
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Stop using depression as an excuse. I used to be the most depressed mofo you had ever seen. After awhile I realized that you can be happy you just have to CHOOSE to be happy. Don't let sad things fill your thoughts and always keep yourself occupied. Focus on the good, no the bad. You're trippin' over girls to much. Focus on your life, hobbies and securing your future and career.
 
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Thing is, I am focused on future and career, to a point where getting it sorted out seems harder than normal. Well, I can't help but "trip over girls". I go for long periods without any, so it leads to some harsh feelings. I wish I had fixed all this sooner, maybe things would be different.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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