"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Long time reader,first time poster.

About me: I am 23 years old,and feel I am at a loss in life. I could go into more specifics now,but I am rather tired. I have read alot of the information on here, and have begun to engrain alot of information in. I still feel I have yet to be where I would like to be,and that has been a problem for me. I do suffer from depression/anxiety/low self esteem/lack of confidence etc,was also diagnosed with a learning disability a few years back,so that could be a cause for alot of this. I will get into more specifics later,perhaps you can help me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thank you. To make things short and sweet and now,and put some thing's into lamen's terms,I generally feel,not so much do,but feel,if that makes sense, the opposite of what is described on here and the whole seduction thing in general. I am trying to break away from certain conditions,both ones learned and developed. I generally feel very lonely and empty,and that feeling of not bringing anything or enough to the table,could be an inferority complex. I am definitley not "the nice guy",hell,I don't even know what I am at this stage. So I think that gives a general idea. I have more to discuss later.

But a couple things are,I try to take in all this positive information,and it doesn't. Could be depression.

Another is all of this talk about presence,frame,etc. How that's all that matters and body type,money,etc do not. Know what I mean?
 
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Well,I have had my a-hole moments,let's say that.

No,I feel more like I am still this,child of sorts. I still live at home,so somewhat co-dependent. It's like I am in this limbo between full adulthood and adolescence,and I see everyone else with a plan moving ahead,and I feel rather behind. If that makes sense. And by not a nice guy,I mean,well,what is commonly described as the nice guy. Emotional tampon,ass kisser,supplicating,etc. I feel as though I have yet to even be seen as "sexual" by girls,and this has had me very concerned. I will say this,ever since reading this site,I see chick's b.s a little better,and have developed a bit of an anger at them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you won't really change until you feel like life has beat you up and you can't take it anymore. it's only after you've hit bottom that you can actually rise up and change
 
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Well,I mean,I don't know If I would say I have hit total bottom,I am just not happy. I do feel beaten up though.

It acually feels like I have realized how things work,and am bitter/angry that things are not in my favor,when all I want is things to go simply.

For example,this,and the whole "Value" thing,which I am still trying to figure out:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFq45e-d5fY&NR=1
 
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Metaphysical said:
you won't really change until you feel like life has beat you up and you can't take it anymore. it's only after you've hit bottom that you can actually rise up and change
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Metaphysical, are you the kid that actually went through the whole transformation on the site?!?! :eek:

If you are, that is beyond amazing! :up:
 
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