"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi, I'm new to the scene.....

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Hi, I am 18 years old, weight 197 pounds am 6 foot 6 inches and can bench 260 pounds and everything else i can do is proporsional to that. I consider myself to be in good shape and I am average in facial looks. I am VERY new to the whole dating scene and picking up chicks scene. See, I used to be very very very very overweight (270 pounds benching 100 pounds) and was afraid to ever hit on a girl or do anything like that. I havn't even KISSED a girl in my life. It was just about 2 years ago that I decided to get myself in shape. However, I want to become an uber pimp :). So I figure trial and error is the key. But I need some tips and suggestions, so could anyone help me out with this?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Read the bible, it will tell you all you need to know.
 

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could i get a link to the bible or just tell me how to get to it?
*Edit**never mind* i just saw the link
 

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Get a girlfriend. What's the point in trying to be a player or whatever, if you've never even kissed or touched a girl before.

If you wanna be a top class ladies man, then you need experience. Guess what Jimmy? You're not gonna get any from reading some DJ bible, you should just network, meet more people and get a girlfriend.

You're 18. Being a player can wait.
 

Best friends? NAY

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Set your self up to win.
Nice cloths, nice shoes, good cologne.
Do stuff to help you NOW.
Are you're teeth white?
Is your hair nice looking?
Do studder or mumble?
Work on these things.
Ohh ya, and do that thing everyone always talks about.... have some fun.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok, I understand what I need to do. I have plenty of self confidence (in areas that i have experience in lol) and I do have plenty of fun. For instance, today I just learned to skimboard and tore my ass UP. It was fun as hell. But I also kneeboard and wakeskate. But the most enjoyable thing in my life right now is probably weightlifting, without that I would be lost. As I've seen several times, I just need to get out of my comfort zone of being alone, and take some risks. I'm a goodlooking guy so I know i can do it. Thanks for all the post btw.
 

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Welcome to SS, Brah. I had a friend that went through the same thing as you. He was a pudgy freshman in HS and people made fun of him. By the time he was a senior he was baggin hotties left and right. All he really needed to do besides get in shape was to take up the look the women he was chasing loved. Find the girls you like, check out what they dig and become it. They have no memory of who you use to be if you're cool about it. Older women require more skill, but @ your age level it's a sinch like that.
 

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dont listen to any "pimps" or "players" or whatever. in the end, its all about self confidence and developing your own style.

you have nothing to lose. just go up and chat generally with a girl.

general questions like: "hey? do you come here often?", "what's your name?", or whatever will set you up for a conversation.

if youre at a club, some alcohol will help you out (avoid drinking too much) as it will give you artificial bravery...

just keep going out and trying to dance and talk with girls. sure, you'll get dissed sometimes, but dont let that get you down.

"Best friends? NAY" has a point where he states that you have to make yourself look as good as you possibly can. Get some good clothes. If you have any female friends get them to dress you.
 

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needsomehelp, I agree with you, I think that is the way to go, but I disagree with that **** you wrote in your other post. lol. I dunno where you got the idea that power doesnt respect power, but just try to notice it in your everyday life with your friends, you probably will. If they are not homo. Which I'm assuming they are not.
 
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