"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hi gorgeous?

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Iv'e been getting good with the ladies latley but I wanna know, whats the best greeting to give em?
A chick came up to me & said "Hi gorgeous" once & I liked it.
But if I say "Hi gorgeous how's it going" to a hot babe will I sound like a bit of a wuss?
Is "Hi how's it going better"?
Dose it depend on the chick?
Dose it not really make any difference?

(I know about confidence, how to say it, eye contact & all that $hite)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DiskJockey said:
Iv'e been getting good with the ladies latley but I wanna know, whats the best greeting to give em?
A chick came up to me & said "Hi gorgeous" once & I liked it.
But if I say "Hi gorgeous how's it going" to a hot babe will I sound like a bit of a wuss?
Is "Hi how's it going better"?
Dose it depend on the chick?
Dose it not really make any difference?

(I know about confidence, how to say it, eye contact & all that $hite)
With that many questions on an opening line, I don't think you do Dogg.
 
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DiskJockey said:
I know about confidence, how to say it, eye contact & all that $hite)
It is not enough simply to "know" about confidence. You must actually have confidence.

A man with 100% belief in himself would not ask such questions because he knows he can get away with saying anything to a woman within reason.
 

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But if I say "Hi gorgeous how's it going" to a hot babe will I sound like a bit of a wuss?


Yes, except for the "a bit" part. You will sound like a total wuss AFC. Never tell a pretty girl she is pretty, until she gets naked, then it's ok.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Your first words must tell women that you understand their mission.
First words that figuratively say, “I want to have sex with you,” or “Let’s waste some time,” are common. These words communicate a mission that may be different from that of your targets. It’s time to establish meaningful, straightforward communication.

Another common opener many men use is “How are you doing?” That’s nice but do women really believe you care? This is a “small talk opener” that leads to more small talk and moves you away from the close.

Not only does a question like this set you up for seeming insincere, you also run the risk of her telling you “how” she is doing today. You might not really want to know. “How are you doing” is not a safe question.

Always open with a non-threatening question. Questions give you control. Questions demand answers. Answers require thought.

It’s important that the question is not threatening or negative. “Hey baby” is threatening. “How are you doing today?” produces an unpredictable and possibly negative response.

The rule when asking a question is: Never ask a question that might get you an answer you don’t want to hear.

Your goal is to initiate meaningful, straightforward communication. Start on the right foot. Get in sync with your target’s mission. Your target’s mission is usually to DISCOVER. “Hey baby” implies it is to BUY.

“How are you today?” implies the mission is to waste time. Women are not interested in wasting time and making small talk with you. Women don’t walk by you and say, “Hey, let’s go tell that guy how we are doing today.”
 

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thankyou u know your stuff

Bible_Belt said:
But if I say "Hi gorgeous how's it going" to a hot babe will I sound like a bit of a wuss?


Yes, except for the "a bit" part. You will sound like a total wuss AFC. Never tell a pretty girl she is pretty, until she gets naked, then it's ok.
 

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Yeah you know yor stuff to, so you don't open with any "Hi's" really hey, just say something that comes to your mind about the current setting you & the target are in?

Dongfu said:
Your first words must tell women that you understand their mission.
First words that figuratively say, “I want to have sex with you,” or “Let’s waste some time,” are common. These words communicate a mission that may be different from that of your targets. It’s time to establish meaningful, straightforward communication.

Another common opener many men use is “How are you doing?” That’s nice but do women really believe you care? This is a “small talk opener” that leads to more small talk and moves you away from the close.

Not only does a question like this set you up for seeming insincere, you also run the risk of her telling you “how” she is doing today. You might not really want to know. “How are you doing” is not a safe question.

Always open with a non-threatening question. Questions give you control. Questions demand answers. Answers require thought.

It’s important that the question is not threatening or negative. “Hey baby” is threatening. “How are you doing today?” produces an unpredictable and possibly negative response.

The rule when asking a question is: Never ask a question that might get you an answer you don’t want to hear.

Your goal is to initiate meaningful, straightforward communication. Start on the right foot. Get in sync with your target’s mission. Your target’s mission is usually to DISCOVER. “Hey baby” implies it is to BUY.

“How are you today?” implies the mission is to waste time. Women are not interested in wasting time and making small talk with you. Women don’t walk by you and say, “Hey, let’s go tell that guy how we are doing today.”
 
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