Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes, the point of this is that if you're gonna use gimmicks, like canned material, etc. you might as well make it rediculous and tell the girls your doing it so you can all have laugh together. Instead of actually trying to trick someone, which is a pretty sad approach.The Inside Man said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
.Yes, this is another fun idea. Your on the right track. :yes:ketostix said:The problem is your trying to use a gimmick, and one that reviels "fight club" at that, for the comfort phase as an opener before you got into C1 (comfort) in the Mystery model. You got to carry your book around as a peacock/prop to get girls to open you and be intriqued, then ignore your targets incessant questioning about why you have a book wity you at a bar and what the books about. NEg her and talk to her fatty UG/****block friend... Ok I'm just talking out of my ass now, but it's obvious you're humoring us with your post here
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.