When i talk to HBs and shoot the **** they talk back, engage in the banter and generally have fun. But when I talk to ordinary girls they just have this blank smile look on their face, and keep fidgeting when I sit next to them and it makes me feel real awkward talking to them cuz I am the one doing all the talking. Sometimes ordinary chicks talk to me normal,but most of the time they act all weird around me and it phases me out! What the hell?:nervous:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
hey guys help me understand why i am more comfy talking to HBs than average girls?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your mind is on seductive autopilot, you are doing things that attract women without even realising it, thus you have success with hot women who are used to talking to attractive guys, and can have some nervous reactions from women that aren't all that used to talking to guys who are doing everything right in attraction.dipset said:When i talk to HBs and shoot the **** they talk back, engage in the banter and generally have fun. But when I talk to ordinary girls they just have this blank smile look on their face, and keep fidgeting when I sit next to them and it makes me feel real awkward talking to them cuz I am the one doing all the talking. Sometimes ordinary chicks talk to me normal,but most of the time they act all weird around me and it phases me out! What the hell?:nervous:
Get them comfortable, if you really want to speak to average girls. If i was you, its all the better, just have a whole social circle of extremely attractive women!
but liek what sort of things would i say to average women to get them comfortable? like with the hotter ones they tend to get involved with whatever i ask them or talk to them about, whereas the less hotter ones just give me short answers and wait for me to talk i guess.Lust said:Your mind is on seductive autopilot, you are doing things that attract women without even realising it, thus you have success with hot women who are used to talking to attractive guys, and can have some nervous reactions from women that aren't all that used to talking to guys who are doing everything right in attraction.
Get them comfortable, if you really want to speak to average girls. If i was you, its all the better, just have a whole social circle of extremely attractive women!
Kev07
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use the average girls to test out new things you want to say, that's what i do.
Maybe because you aren't taking your conversations with HBs seriously, but actually trying to get with average girls, therefore more is on the line. Another thing i noticed, it seems attractive women are more "open" and welcome to your conversations, flirtations to some degree, when average girls do kinda sit there and act quiet. Is this what you mean? I've noticed it too, anyone else? I wonder why.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
that is exactly what i meanrrrrr said:Maybe because you aren't taking your conversations with HBs seriously, but actually trying to get with average girls, therefore more is on the line. Another thing i noticed, it seems attractive women are more "open" and welcome to your conversations, flirtations to some degree, when average girls do kinda sit there and act quiet. Is this what you mean? I've noticed it too, anyone else? I wonder why.
BacardiGuy
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The hot ones have more self confidence, so are more comfortable having conversations because no matter what they say, they know they're still attractive.
Don't even bother asking this.... The BEAUTIFUL women are what we are afterBacardiGuy said:The hot ones have more self confidence, so are more comfortable having conversations because no matter what they say, they know they're still attractive.
in the 1st place. Stick to what your doing already, you seem to have "arrived" already so why the need to attract the lower of the totem pole?
That's what I think it is, plus let's face it, better looking get more attention and therefore more conversation, and social environments than average. It doesn't mean the hot babe wants you, or the average girl is blowing you off. They're just interacting like they know how.