"He's too short it sucks"

[jhonny9546]

If obsessing about being unattractive to certain people gives meaning to your life, you're bound to become really unhappy.

Myself. Is that considered bad?

 

[jhonny9546]

If you stop caring about your height, but change your behaviour to that of a taller man, nobody will care about your height, just like Pacino.

You only have a serious issue if you’re like 5’3.

I am. I wish I could do it.
I am 2 inches shorter than the average female height in my country, and I can notice it. Not much about the height, but about the BMI thing.
Infact, women here have an average of 25/26 BMI, while mine its fit at 23. When I get near those women, I look like their child!
Should I have to make some preference about my partner?
For example, I like to hug women, but I feel "ankward" when hugging a women which is bigger than me.
It's just my feeling. Why it's happening?[/QUOTE]

 

[Scaramouche]

Myself. Is that considered bad?

Hi Johny,
Unless you only see it as prolonging the agony,you will be pleased to know that being tall significantly reduces your longevity... data on the height, weight, and age at death of 373 men were obtained from records at the Veterans Administration Medical Center, San Diego, CA, USA. Men of height 175.3 cm or less lived an average of 4.95 years longer than those of height over 175.3 cm, while men of height 170.2 cm or less lived 7.46 years longer than those of at least 182.9 cm. An analysis by weight difference revealed a 7.72-year greater longevity for men of weight 63.6 kg or less compared with those of 90.9 kg or more.

 

[Stephen89]

I'm 5ft 8 and don't have a problem with women and I don't care.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Hi Johny,
Unless you only see it as prolonging the agony,you will be pleased to know that being tall significantly reduces your longevity... data on the height, weight, and age at death of 373 men were obtained from records at the Veterans Administration Medical Center, San Diego, CA, USA. Men of height 175.3 cm or less lived an average of 4.95 years longer than those of height over 175.3 cm, while men of height 170.2 cm or less lived 7.46 years longer than those of at least 182.9 cm. An analysis by weight difference revealed a 7.72-year greater longevity for men of weight 63.6 kg or less compared with those of 90.9 kg or more.

Veterans are funny. We used to laugh at the oafishly tall, they make better targets. I posit that given the data set that might’ve been the decisive data point. Hah

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's irrelevant. It only matters until it doesn't matter.

Never spend a single second worrying about things you cannot control or change. It's a surefire way to go nowhere in life.

 

[Scaramouche]

Veterans are funny. We used to laugh at the oafishly tall, they make better targets. I posit that given the data set that might’ve been the decisive data point. Hah

Hi Pierce,
Well there has been a cruel change in the quality of your Soldiers,the Marines I saw in Vietnam were beautiful specimens of our breeds both Anglos and Afros but a couple of years ago I saw your Soldiers in Darwin where they were called by the locals,three M's (a local chocolate),Manilas Midget Marines they were short and poorly turned out,So sad!

 

[Scaramouche]

That's why I had blisters on my elbows.

Hi Amsterdam,
I always thought Hollands last War,was against Bony in 1815?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

The last significant deployment of the Dutch military in combat occurred in Afghanistan as part of the NATO-led International Security Assistance Force (ISAF) mission. Dutch troops were deployed to Afghanistan from 2002 until 2014, primarily in the southern province of Uruzgan. They were involved in combat operations against insurgent groups such as the Taliban while also engaging in reconstruction and stabilization efforts. Since the end of the Dutch mission in Afghanistan, the Dutch military has been involved in various peacekeeping and stabilization operations worldwide, but they have not participated in large-scale combat operations.

 

[Scaramouche]

The last significant deployment of the Dutch military in combat occurred in Afghanistan as part of the NATO-led International Security Assistance Force (ISAF) mission. Dutch troops were deployed to Afghanistan from 2002 until 2014, primarily in the southern province of Uruzgan. They were involved in combat operations against insurgent groups such as the Taliban while also engaging in reconstruction and stabilization efforts. Since the end of the Dutch mission in Afghanistan, the Dutch military has been involved in various peacekeeping and stabilization operations worldwide, but they have not participated in large-scale combat operations.

Hi Pierce,
I wouldn't like to have been there....As Kipling put it (Same place different War)....
If You're left out for Dead on Afghanistans Plains,
And the Women down to cut up what remains,
Then Roll to your rifle and blow out your brains,
And go to your God like A Soldier.

 

[Scaramouche]

We put military draft on the back burner, but I got letters for my son about potential mandatory military service again. Some parents now worry about having to send their sons (and daughters) as Dutch military into the Russia / Ukraine conflict.

Also, Scara, not all combat is war and not all war is combat.

Hi Amsterdam,
Yes sending your Euros and Old military equipment is one thing,sending your Sons is quite another....I am sure Turk Westerling would have agreed with you on your final comment.

 

[zekko]

I’m quite average in stature, 5’10 177cm. But I’m better than average in most all categories. I’ve dated taller women.

I'm also 5'10", which is supposed to be average. I don't recall anyone every having a problem with my height (at least not that was spoken). I've always said my height is such that it doesn't hurt me, but doesn't really help me either. But I don't like tall women, I prefer short (5'4" to 5'6"), so maybe I would run into it more if I was attracted to tall women.

The problem with height is that there isn't anything you can do to change it, not really. Obviously you want to carry yourself well, good posture, etc. But the Stoics say you should ignore what you can't change.

 

[MatureDJ]

... with the average Dutchman being 183cm ...

A whole country of moggers.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

I heard this phrase many times, in different context.
It could be work, it could be women gossip, it could be at the bar.
It make me think about how the brains of women, even the most polite ones, are practically designed for this thing..
Are there exceptions? Yes there are. For example, women who had a short father will most likely look for a short partner. Vice versa. (do you know more)?

The fact is that a short man doesn't like hearing these things, and even worse, knowing that female nature doesn't want him. What's your take on this, after years and years of experiences?

So you are hearing women gossiping with each other about some other guy and his height. What does this have to do with you? Women say all kinds of stupid shyt.

 

[jhonny9546]

So you are hearing women gossiping with each other about some other guy and his height. What does this have to do with you? Women say all kinds of stupid shyt.

This feature makes me, or any other short men, unactractive, or better non-desireable.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

This feature makes me, or any other short men, unactractive, or better non-desireable.

Okay, so in your mind you're not desirable based on height. And then what?

 

[jhonny9546]

Okay, so in your mind you're not desirable based on height. And then what?

I've asked myself if this is only in my mind, but it's not. No, of course not.

I've met women who straight-up told me they'd be in a relationship with me, but felt awkward about having a man 5-10 cm shorter because it wouldn't make them feel secure. They explained this but couldn't say why. However, they said I have a well above average face.

It has happened to me that many women stare at my face, and usually start the body language thing from afar. Then, once I have raised up from being seated, or just when they realize that I am short, they change their behaviour and lose their interest.

It has also happened to me that some women stare at me and have complimented my eyes.

It has also happened to me, when talking to women, that they look me directly in the eyes and engage in prolonged eye contact, like more than 6 or 7 seconds. In contrast, I've noticed that when my friends talk with women, those women usually break eye contact after 2 or 3 seconds.

I get to notice these nuances in people's interactions. I just wanted to share my point of view.

Only when you care about your height. If you don't care, they won't even notice.

I've never mentioned my height or any other thing in a human interaction, but analyzing things, and getting feedback, it's obvious. People of the other sex confirm that also.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I've asked myself if this is only in my mind, but it's not. No, of course not.

I've met women who straight-up told me they'd be in a relationship with me, but felt awkward about having a man 5-10 cm shorter because it wouldn't make them feel secure. They explained this but couldn't say why. However, they said I have a well above average face.

It has happened to me that many women stare at my face, and usually start the body language thing from afar. Then, once I have raised up from being seated, or just when they realize that I am short, they change their behaviour and lose their interest.

It has also happened to me that some women stare at me and have complimented my eyes.

It has also happened to me, when talking to women, that they look me directly in the eyes and engage in prolonged eye contact, like more than 6 or 7 seconds. In contrast, I've noticed that when my friends talk with women, those women usually break eye contact after 2 or 3 seconds.

I get to notice these nuances in people's interactions. I just wanted to share my point of view.



I've never mentioned my height or any other thing in a human interaction, but analyzing things, and getting feedback, it's obvious. People of the other sex confirm that also.

There must be a height:face ratio algorithm that determines at given height what one’s face (x/10) must be to compensate.
At Height A, one’s face must be B to =
C (let C be a constant in which face mitigates lack of height)
For example (hypothetical) 5’5:8/10=C.
5.2:8/10 <C. 5.10:8/10>C.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I've asked myself if this is only in my mind, but it's not. No, of course not.

I've met women who straight-up told me they'd be in a relationship with me, but felt awkward about having a man 5-10 cm shorter because it wouldn't make them feel secure. They explained this but couldn't say why. However, they said I have a well above average face.

It has happened to me that many women stare at my face, and usually start the body language thing from afar. Then, once I have raised up from being seated, or just when they realize that I am short, they change their behaviour and lose their interest.

It has also happened to me that some women stare at me and have complimented my eyes.

It has also happened to me, when talking to women, that they look me directly in the eyes and engage in prolonged eye contact, like more than 6 or 7 seconds. In contrast, I've noticed that when my friends talk with women, those women usually break eye contact after 2 or 3 seconds.

I get to notice these nuances in people's interactions. I just wanted to share my point of view..

Your examples all incredibly subtle. If you are actually good looking you’ll have experiences like this:

You’re chilling at a bar with a buddy. A girl comes up to you and buys you a drink.

You meet a random girl at a hiking club event. An hour later she wants to go back to town & get a motel room with you.

You’re at a client work location. A girl you vaguely know comes up to you and says: ‘You probably don’t care what people think about you. But, you’re really good looking.’.

etc…

 

[Millard Fillmore]

I've asked myself if this is only in my mind, but it's not. No, of course not.

I've met women who straight-up told me they'd be in a relationship with me, but felt awkward about having a man 5-10 cm shorter because it wouldn't make them feel secure. They explained this but couldn't say why. However, they said I have a well above average face.

It has happened to me that many women stare at my face, and usually start the body language thing from afar. Then, once I have raised up from being seated, or just when they realize that I am short, they change their behaviour and lose their interest.

It has also happened to me that some women stare at me and have complimented my eyes.

It has also happened to me, when talking to women, that they look me directly in the eyes and engage in prolonged eye contact, like more than 6 or 7 seconds. In contrast, I've noticed that when my friends talk with women, those women usually break eye contact after 2 or 3 seconds.

I get to notice these nuances in people's interactions. I just wanted to share my point of view.



I've never mentioned my height or any other thing in a human interaction, but analyzing things, and getting feedback, it's obvious. People of the other sex confirm that also.

I see, thanks for sharing. How tall are you again? Have you dated very short/petite women? There are a lot out there. My buddy is maybe 5'5" and he pulled well (sometimes a bit taller) and eventually married a girl around his height. He wasn't jacked or rich either.

The eye contact thing - that's probably a side effect of your self consciousness. And it's not the be all end all.