"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"He's come undone" - Interesting Article

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Here.

But according to some researchers, women bear some responsibility for the current male malaise, because they've been sending conflicting signals about what they want from men. Take physical appearance. For decades, heterosexual women have told pollsters they're attracted to a variety of feminine attributes in potential mates, from delicate facial features to a "sensitive" personality, notes Ira Matathia, a marketing expert and co-author of the recently published The Future of Men. But as males remake themselves accordingly, many women seem to miss the crackle associated with stereotypical sexual roles. Perversely, they gravitate toward the granite-jawed chauvinists of old, whether as bedmates or husbands.
Surprise surprise.

The average schlub could draw a number of inferences from this. First, that women want different things from different men. Second, that brutish males awaken something in many women's subsconsciousness (who hasn't been floored by the sight of a normally discriminating female leaving the bar with an utter bastard?). But it also suggests a more nuanced view of gender roles on the part of both men and women, where the notion of reforming the sexes is seen as archaic.
And we should take full advantage of this.

So he and his co-authors are floating yet another prototype of the reconstructed male, which is distinctly a throwback to such debonair types as Frank Sinatra or Cary Grant. The "übersexual," as they call him, is more polished than the average hetero, more masculine than a metrosexual. He is dedicated to style and quality in all aspects of life. "The men in this category have defined themselves, their goals and their needs, with very little reference to women," says The Future of Men. "They have good relationships with women, but do not go out of their way to seek women's acceptance or approval."
Bad name, but right idea.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How about:

"Women have no ****ing clue what they want so we shouldn't listen to them."

Anyone want to write an article on that?

Give it a year... I'm willing to bet there will be yet another 'prototype' that women will create that desperate and delusional men everywhere will haplessly follow.

Let's ****ing end this... now.

AS
 

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Originally posted by Duo


Bad name, but right idea.
What's wrong with the name? D@mn good article though, best I've read in a long time. :up:
 

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Re: Re: "He's come undone" - Interesting Article

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
What's wrong with the name?
It's a take-off of Metrosexual. I don't like being reminded of that particular fad.
 

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Originally posted by The Antichrist_Star
How about:

"Women have no ****ing clue what they want so we shouldn't listen to them."
do you mind if I quote this on my sig? :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm in Australia, and I didn't really notice the whole 'metrosexual' thing take off in the first place (maybe it had a bigger impact in USA?).

I'm highly doubting that the media, with articles like that scattered here and there, will actually have an effect (if any) on the way men dress and behave.

Think about it. How many guys you know that are/were metrosexuals? Most guys I know are NOT. They just pull on a T-shirt with jeans and sneakers and that's that. Maybe a jacket? Or a button-up?

...and that whole new 'ubersexual' refined manly man -- dont you wish they would stop making labels and just let men be men LOL.
 

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Re: Re: Re: "He's come undone" - Interesting Article

Originally posted by Duo
It's a take-off of Metrosexual. I don't like being reminded of that particular fad.
How about ubermench then? :D
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: "He's come undone" - Interesting Article

Originally posted by Alicorn
How about ubermench then? :D
But you see I have blonde hair and blue eyes. If is started walking around calling myself an "ubermensch," I'd probably get killed by the Zionist oppressors*.








* This is a joke. Don't hurt me.
 

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
do you mind if I quote this on my sig? :D
Knock yourself out... haha

Honestly man... this **** is a joke. :down:

AS
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by The Antichrist_Star
Honestly man... this **** is a joke. :down:
I think we might be getting very different ideas from this article.

The three main points I drew from the article (referenced in the quotes I posted) are:

1. There is a significant difference between what women want and what they say they want.

2. Many people, including some feminists, have started to question the idea of reforming gender ideals.

3. For me, the "ubersexual" that the article speaks of is what we would normally call a Don Juan.
 

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übersexual, retrosexual, whatever.

All codeword for REAL MAN.

It's disturbing that people think this is a secret.
 

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I've labled myself a sexualsexual.

When I'm not with women, I'm masturbating.

Sometimes I feel like being a metrosexualsexual, and thats when i put on my pink polo with the collar popped and masturbate infront of the mirror.
 

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time for all the pink polo guys to go back to wearing flannel like the rest of us.

p.s. shave your chinline too while you're at it!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I still like pink shirts. I'm thinking about a pair of pink loafers.
 
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