"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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...and what a lot of guys need to realize and accept.

You will, as an "average" male, 95% or more of the time, date/fvck BELOW your sexual market value. The only three things that will allow you to date above your SMV are fame (by far #1 because all women are wh0res for attention and will fvck a famous guy just for bragging rights and more instagram followers), so much money that you can flaunt it 24/7 and bang hot gold diggers (so essentially a multi-millionaire), and/or an extremely good social circle. If you are a 6 without any of the aforementioned three blessings, you will not be able to snag above a 6.5, and if you can even get a 6, you're very lucky. Why? Because the guys who are 8+ are snagging the 5-7's. I know this because I consider myself an 8 (no fame, not rich, not social circle), and I'm only able to get 5-7's. I have been with girls who were 8+, but it's extremely rare, which leads me to my next point...

There's a lot of right place right time (luck) involved in getting women at or above your SMV. Girl just got out of a relationship and you're the first one she talks to and likes? There's your chance. When you see average guys (or below) with hot chicks it's almost always due to social circle. The innate rapport from other people knowing and liking you and "recommending" you is legit almost as good as fame. A girl will automatically feel more comfortable and trust you when her friends know and like you. This is the reason I'm 28 and have never been in a committed relationship, because I don't want to settle for a 5-7, and 8+'s can get better than me.

Now I'm not saying don't try to get someone hotter than you--you certainly should. However, if your game is on point and you get rejected, you shouldn't beat yourself up about it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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...and what a lot of guys need to realize and accept.

You will, as an "average" male, 95% or more of the time, date/fvck BELOW your sexual market value. The only three things that will allow you to date above your SMV are fame (by far #1 because all women are wh0res for attention and will fvck a famous guy just for bragging rights and more instagram followers), so much money that you can flaunt it 24/7 and bang hot gold diggers (so essentially a multi-millionaire), and/or an extremely good social circle. If you are a 6 without any of the aforementioned three blessings, you will not be able to snag above a 6.5, and if you can even get a 6, you're very lucky. Why? Because the guys who are 8+ are snagging the 5-7's. I know this because I consider myself an 8 (no fame, not rich, not social circle), and I'm only able to get 5-7's. I have been with girls who were 8+, but it's extremely rare, which leads me to my next point...

There's a lot of right place right time (luck) involved in getting women at or above your SMV. Girl just got out of a relationship and you're the first one she talks to and likes? There's your chance. When you see average guys (or below) with hot chicks it's almost always due to social circle. The innate rapport from other people knowing and liking you and "recommending" you is legit almost as good as fame. A girl will automatically feel more comfortable and trust you when her friends know and like you. This is the reason I'm 28 and have never been in a committed relationship, because I don't want to settle for a 5-7, and 8+'s can get better than me.

Now I'm not saying don't try to get someone hotter than you--you certainly should. However, if your game is on point and you get rejected, you shouldn't beat yourself up about it.
I think I can actually agree with this.

I don’t have a great social circle, and much dispensable cash. Dating is actually quite tough. For me surprisingly as I think I’m a great catch aside from not having those two things.
I go on dates but they aren’t with the top notch women. If I got in a long term relationship and was accepted for who I am at the core right now, she’s probably going to be a 5-6. Anything more and what I’m able to provide won’t be enough even if I myself am exciting and give her good sex.
Really attractive women in the past I’ve seen, always come up with an issue concerning the social circle, getaways (excitement), and dates, my career.

Maybe going on dates is legit pointless until a man is firing on just about all cyclinders. Because you’re right. 90% of the single women want that top % of man, and they will monkey branch non stop until they find him. So maybe a man needs to build such high value to keep the women in place.
 

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Also just because you land a hot woman for a month, or six, or even a year, or even 5 means nothing. A man constantly has to keep providing more and more value to keep the woman sexually engaged and intrigued emotionally in him, otherwise she’s going to be looking elsewhere. It’s sickening.
Exclusivity talks and marriage won’t stop them from finding someone else. It’s all about providing the best value. The world of relationships and the world of business are very similar.
 

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In a primitive sense, yes this is true. However, mindset trumps all. That’s most of what social skills is anyway. You have to have a really strong personality with a really strong mindset too. You can still punch above your weight if you play things right.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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