DJF or John
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Please do bro.DJF or John said:I'll continue this discussion later this week.
Hey thx man...I realize I should not have been harsh on you. The last thing we need on this forum are out-azzhole contests.DJF or John said:Well let's finish this discussion here a bit.
Btw rakishness thanks for those links, I'm studying those currently.
sstype, I like you man. You see, we can have a "discussion" and politely disagree with each other, without being outright childish and immature like the God of Getting Rejected has to be, lol. Okay, what you got?
"Well DJF, I think I will have to respectfully disagree with a lot of what you said but you are entitled to your opinion."
See, this is why I like you. We can both learn from each other. Hey dude, I don't know everything, I come here to contribute as well as learn.
"Look, sexual state should be used with caution given today's anti-male/masculinity culture. YOU may think you are seductive, smooth, and cool but if the girl your gaming thinks you're a creep then at the very least she will run away from you."
Hmmm....continue...
"Just be careful. With all these harrassment/rape charges flying around like nothing, all it takes is one screwed up chick to ruin you."
Hey now you know what, you got a very great point there. Lol, it's the "NBA Basketball Player" problem lol. You got a chick that clearly wants to fvck you, then you fvck her, then she wants to say you raped her, lol.
Here's the thing, this situation is a possibility, period. The only thing I would suggest is to just WATCH the women that you fvck.
From what I read it´s this:shrewd said:so, uh, how exactly does one get into this sexual state? Quit wanking it? walk around with a hard on? lol, sorry, but seriously could you give a better description of it, maybe some more examples? thanks
I believe being sexually agressive without verbalizing it sums it all up. I got a question though. If you act agressive (always kino her etc..), doesn´t the girl lose interest in you cuz you stop being a challenge cuz u made it clear that you like her early on?makes you speak with a better more attractive tone of voice (bedroom voice)
causes you to hold eye contact better and more sensually
causes you to touch her more and more sexually (getting her ready for the sexual encounter)
causes you to keep a level of physical closeness that builds a strong sense of comfort in her
causes you to not pander or be a beggar (as you realize are just as valuable sexually), so,
you don't buy her drinks like the rest of the losers do
you don't give insincere compliments like the rest of the losers do
you don't pander to her to entertain like the rest of the losers do
you don't brag like the losers do
you don't come off sexually androgynous and hide your masculinity like the losers do
And as a result of all this, you are not branded yet another everyday chump hitting on her.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
actually, that idea sounds like an oxymoron to me. I mean, I can picture an ugly guy attempting PU, but being unconfident how would he muster up the courage to try a PU in the first place? If you're unconfident you're not even gonna try to pickup.Zebedee said:You make some good points about guys over thinking things and the use of sexual tension, but to say that confidence and looks have nothing to do with picking up is retarded. Ugly guys with no confidence very rarely pull fit girls thats a fact.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What's a good way to get into the state? I'm starting to understand u but it's still confusingDJF or John said:And Boschy understand, it's not about being a nice guy or a bad guy.
That has nothign to do with it, I keep telling guys, that WHO YOU ARE has nothing to do with it, so BE YOURSELF.
The problem is that MOST nice guys, either hide their horniness around chicks, or they will show it, but they show it verbally and bluntly, and that's not sexy.
The nice guy needs to be horny around a chick, but channel his horniness through his eyes, his walk, his talk, his behavior, his conversation.
It's a total non verbal, "I'm bout to fvck you."
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.