"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Here we go again..

Idkmyname

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Summary of the situation:

I met a girl, we hit it off nicely, a couple weeks later she tells me she is kind of seeing another guy (she apparently was since I knew her) and tells me she doesn't want me to feel like I'm on the sidelines.

So I start moving on, but somehow I see her Friday and Saturday night and she starts hanging all over me, I just keep ignoring her and talk to other girls at the parties. She even got extremely jealous of a girl I was flirting with, she didn't even try to hide it. So today I got a text saying:

"I'm really sorry about everything. I dont want you to hate me because I think im always gonna have a thing for you."

I replied with "Its really hard to believe that considering you just threw me to the side for another guy."

And her final comment was "Its not like that. I honestly dont know what happened."

I'm just not sure what I should say to her next. Any suggestions? Am I being too hard on her since she was kind of already seeing this guy and I stepped in? I'm lost.

This is why I avoid dating, but I think this girl is really cool.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cashew

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You showed her that you didn't need to have her around to have fun or to get the most out of your life. You didn't try to keep her or present yourself as a better possibility than whoever the other guy was. You had the power to and were able to just walk away. Girls like that.

Whatever you do, don't switch to some sort of "oh, we should be together then" mode. Keep letting her chase you, but keep giving her just enough hope that you might come around or that you might be a little interested.
 
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