"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Here is why every guy in this site is better than the rest

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We are all better than the rest of the guys out there for one simple reason. We are all on here to improve ourselves for ourselves and women we meet. If this doesnt help you realise that you are the "prize" than nothing will. Most guys go through life only getting better through trial and error and not getting it all right. We are here on this site to make us better and working with one of the most complicated things in life, women. So if they cant see that you are the prize, their lost not yours some more deserving woman will get you. I just thought it needed to be said.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fenderules

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yeah i have learned a lot. Even though my scoring hasnt improved much, thats from my personal problems. I at least realize what my problems are, and have come a long way from a fagile little teenager who shakes when he talks to girls to being a lot more confident and just following my natural instincts.


I think i would have been lost otherwise. I was beyond AFC. I was more of a stalker hahaha just because i didnt understand. I thought showering women with gifts and praise would workl. If it didnt, you would have to shower them more. Of course they'd freak out and try some plan for me to stop. When i found out what they'v done, i'd always feel terrible, not knowing what the hell i did. It was humiliating as well and very pathetic.
 

Vypros

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No, you are no better than the rest. No one person is not better than the next. Put these thoughts out of your head man!

There is only two things:

Do or do not.
Success or failure.
Be or not be.

There is no "better".
 

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Vypros said:
No, you are no better than the rest. No one person is not better than the next. Put these thoughts out of your head man!
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Philosophical mumbo jumbo
 

Vypros

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mrRuckus said:
Philosophical mumbo jumbo
I phrase it philosophically, but in my head I am thinking this:

"Wait, some dude on a message board is sitting her saying that's better than some dude on a DIFFERENT message board? No, he's no better than that guy until he gets OFF of said message board and does something."
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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FurryFriend

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mrRuckus said:
Philosophical mumbo jumbo
No kidding. Some people seem to have a desperate need to appear smart.

I admit to feeling a bit loser-ish coming onto this forum. But coming here is admitting your life is crap. And admitting you have a problem is the first step in improving it....kinda like at Alcoholics Anonymous.
 

Vypros

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FurryFriend said:
I admit to feeling a bit loser-ish coming onto this forum. But coming here is admitting your life is crap. And admitting you have a problem is the first step in improving it....kinda like at Alcoholics Anonymous.
So, you actually agree with me then.
 

Jay Jay

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hmmm.

not every guy comes here to improve.

some dudes come here to troll.

some here come to vent there anger and frustration at women [or hors as they call them].

some dudes [like me] come here coz they get downtime at work, enjoy talking about these topics and wanna kill some time while maybe helping out the random kid.

some dudes come here and instead of learning good things they just learn bad things [ for example instead of learning to improve themselves they 'learn' that women are 'hors'].

some dudes come here with game that suits them, they read all this guru **** and **** up their natural game.

and a lot of dudes come here instead of taking action.

this last type i will say a few words about.

instead of calling they come here and ask 'should i call.'

instead of approaching they come here and read a million posts on approaching.

instead of asking questions with an open mind they ask a question with an answer already in their head and only listen to the person who says what they want to hear.

instead of listening to stories from guys who REALLY are successful with women they refuse to believe and intsead of realising some things are possible they call the person who really does know a kj.

instead of becoming a legend with the ladies they become a legend on the forum.

BUT

you are correct that the guys who do come here seeking to improve are a step a head pf everyone else.

JJ
 

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Vypros said:
No, you are no better than the rest. No one person is not better than the next. Put these thoughts out of your head man!

There is only two things:

Do or do not.
Success or failure.
Be or not be.

There is no "better".
i hear yo bro.

don't bother wasting your energy with those that wanna bring ya down. they are on their trip, you are on yours.

JJ
 

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Actually, those who have this knowledge typically will overall have an advantage over someone who's done trial and error only. But of course the ones with the most game are probably pimps, since they're always in a girl's head which is the highest level of game, you being their drug to them, them putting themselves in streets for her man.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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blackomen said:
Only if you go out and actually use the stuff you read here..

I have a girlfriend, so im not using this site to get women anymore. I just find it interesting and insightful sometimes. Where else can a bunch of dudes talk about their problems and stuff liek that. If we did this out there in the real world to our friends, theyd kick our a$$ and call us homos.
 
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