"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Her: "I think guys should go after girls"

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A stunning 10 said this line to me and i'm gettin the message that she wants me to pursue her. She had very high initial interest in me until one night where a bad movie messes it all up.

She show signs of interest from time to time, but already stood me up on one date (I kept my cool). I don't want to play phone tag with her any longer, but im not desperate because i have other girls that I'm dating.


Last time i asked her to go shopping, she responded: "Next time." Then I said: "We'll see." and that was the last time i talked to her.

How can i turn that around and have her pursue me?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What is this doing in tips?

In order for her to chase you, you must possess something she want very much, obviosly you don't with this girl.

If what you do isn't working you can't get it to work unless you change who you are. If you are willing to put on an act then go ahead. There are other girls who look really good which will show you interest. Next this one! Do not chase her to boost your vanity.
 
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I dont think there is anymore you can do. Looks like she's trying to bullshyte you and looking if you buy into it? And if you're dating other girls, why bother?
 
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Discussion.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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but already stood me up on one date

This would have been enough to send me packing. I wouldn't put up with this, especially with other options. If she's showing interest from 'time to time', you should do the same or less. Show very little, if any, interest.
 
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why on earth did you not move in when she told you to?

"I think guys should go after girls" is not a message for you to pursue her. it's a sign to make the score now!
 
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Originally posted by B9
why on earth did you not move in when she told you to?

"I think guys should go after girls" is not a message for you to pursue her. it's a sign to make the score now!
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She got tired of waiting around for your lazy a$$.

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Next

It was way too easy to get her in the first place (i need a challenge) but she messed up on her part (and takes it out on me) so it got harder later on. I don't want to deal with any of her bs anymore so NEXT!
 
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she's stringing you along pal

she's wants to be friends

make a definite move on her

you'll likely crash and burn

but it's better than months of torture
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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shes playin games, do something like what EE says, make a move, if it doesn't go well, next her. simple as that.
 
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