You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Xomel, your input is not appreciated.Originally posted by xomel
You're a **** for that and I hope karma gets you back. But then again, shes a stupid hoe and deserved it
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Well, that's basically what i did. i held her up with her ass halfway in the trash and fully put her in after the kiss.Originally posted by JSH
Wouldnt it have been better, if you had held her above a bin and then kissed her. Dropping her in afterwards
yeah i agree, it is all about having fun. I have kinda come round to your point of view, since i can see that it is the kind of thing i might have done. I just think that the way you portrayed it really alienated me at first. Hell, i probably come across like that, thanks for teaching me a valuable lesson.
wow...i wish all 'arguements' were that simple.Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
with REAL DJS...they areOriginally posted by AdrenalynJunkee
Classic. Absolute classic.Originally posted by gRiM999
Here's a funny little sumn sumn for yalls:
Ok, so yesterday, i was out with this inexperienced girl. I was giving her the Silent Treatment (long story) while she was just following me around just BEGGING me to talk to her. It was after school, and we walked to jamba juice while i didnt say anything to her. After that, we walked to the park and i sat down on a bench. I signaled her to sit down and she did. Eventually she caught on to the silence thing cuz i was laughing when she was begging - "you're not really mad at me, are you!?"
Twas funny sh!t.
While i started talking to her again, i initiated lotsa kino and told her to come into my arm. There was cuddling on the bench and etc. Eventually, she had to leave, so we stand up and i hug her. Then, i pick her up and start walking to the trash can. She was all "OMG" and she was squirming and tryin to fight herself out (in vain, of course)
then i hold her halfway in the trash can and shes all freakin out, so i tell her to relax and calm down. I tell her to close her eyes, then i gave the girl her first kiss. She responded well and reciprocated. After that, i leave her in the trash can and walk away
Great and embarrassing first kiss for her, eh?