"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Her dad is crazy!

Don Corleone

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alright guys, I need some advice. I've known this hot ass hispanic chick for most of my life, and have been very good friends with her family. Recently I have been hanging out with her and we definitely like eachother. She is 18, and I am 19.

Her dad won't let her go out at night. He wont let he go out on the weekends. He is the strictest person I have ever met. (he cried when he found out she wasn't a virgin). This girl is basically a prisoner in her own house. I honestly think that if I fycked her over, he would kill me.

I dont want to just blow this girl off, I mean she is worth going through some crap for, but I just don't know if I can handle her dad. I'm not sure what to do. I know I should just go on to the next girl, but I like this girl and she is great, her dad is just crazy. In fact, I am the only guy he has ever let her hang out with.(she normally sees her boyfriends at school).

What should I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Joe The Homophobe

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Originally posted by Don Corleone
I know I should just go on to the next girl, but I like this girl and she is great, her dad is just crazy. In fact, I am the only guy he has ever let her hang out with.(she normally sees her boyfriends at school).

What should I do?
When you are around him behave like a gentleman and not a young punk. Try to look like a good, responsible young man. You said that you are the only guy he lets her hang out with (so he does have some respect for you), so If you behave in a good manner he probably won't have a problem with you being his little girls boyfriend.

Yes I know it sounds crazy and corny but situations like this require different approaches to solve them.

BUT, you don't want to be her bf and have a serious relationship, you just want to ____ her correct? if so stay away from her! but then again if you do want a relationship with this gal you will still probably ____ her, and I don't think she is gonna go tell her dad that you _____ her, and risk him getting mad at her once the relationship with you is over (you better get her to keep it a secret i guess)
 

Desdinova

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It's not your job to handle her father, it's her job. If she's not going to stand up to her father and say, "I'm 18 and I need to have a life", it's not worth the hassle and aggrivation. If she's going to let herself be daddy's little girl, then let daddy have her.

I mean she is worth going through some crap for,
There is no woman in the world that is worth going through crap. There's thousands of women out there who are allowed to have a life. It's possible that you want her even more because she's been labeled as "hands off" by her father. But I'll tell you, it's not worth the trouble. I've been through it.
 
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