"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hemorroids from squats

Falcon

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Do any of you get hemorrhoids from doing squats? Squats are my favorite exercise, but if it's going to give me hemorrhoids for the rest of my life when I do squats, I don't know if it's worth it. I confirmed that it was the squats causing it because I went off doing squats for a month and they disappeared and when I started doing squats again they appeared.

Any way around this? I tried changing my form but it hasn't helped :mad:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I went through a similar episode a while back. I found the cause to be a sh1tty diet that lead to unpleasant bowel movements (too much alcohol and fast food). Squats only made the issue worse. Remember to eat plenty of fiber and avoid foods that irritate your bowels or stop you up. Oatmeal and green veggies are great for keeping regular - and they're healthy to boot! In the mean time, you could try applying witch hazel to the area a couple times a day; there are products for the pain, as well. Just google it.
 

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Yup, mostly went away now. I was crapping significant amounts of blood everyday, it was scary, thought my colon was ruptured. Got an uncomfortable inspection and nothing. Hemmoroids or an inflamation.

Diet helps. It takes time since it's not the most... sensitive area of the body so healing is slow.
 

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They are caused by increased intra-abdominal pressure, low-fiber diet, and bad luck.

Most every adult gets them at some point or another. The best way to prevent them is to eat AMPLE fiber--fruits, veggies, metamucil, bran, etc---and dont strain on the toilet. Avoid squatting until they subside. Take a 325mg aspirin a day until they subside. This will help break up/prevent the thrombus that forms in painful external hemmorhoids. Warm baths will help symptomatically. Keep it clean. Over the counter products only help symptoms, not the actual problem.

If ALL that fails, see a general or colorectal surgeon.
 

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I'm going to try to make huge improvements to my diet, hopefully that will do the trick because I've been on a high protein diet forever. I probably need a lot more fiber. I know it is always preferable to get it from real food, but do any of you recommend using the fiber supplements that you add to shakes and stuff too?

This is pretty important because I play a lot of sports and squats is one of the main reasons that I can keep my legs strong, injury-free, and in tip-top shape. I'll be crushed if I have to discontinue squats if this problem doesn't go away :(
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Falcon

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Not having too much success. I've definitely been adding more fiber and that did help some. But when they go away for some time they always come back at some point. It's always coming and going, I don't really ever see a long length of time where I have hemorrhoids or hemorrhoid-free.

They don't hurt... it just bleeds when I'm taking a dump occasionally (sometimes a lot). I still hate it though. I sit down a lot at work so that could be contributing to it but I can't really change that.

I'm thinking of discontinuing squats for a long period of time or permanently. Although I have no idea what exercise to do to maintain my leg strength, since similar alternative exercises will probably cause the same problems because they all use the same motion.. :confused:
 

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I think you should see a general surgeon at this point. Tell them you have tried all the above conservative measures. You just need to get them ligated or excised and be done with it. It's humiliating, I know, but it is a very common problem.

PM me if you have questions.
 
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