That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Haha I’ve actually been listening and writing notes intently about what you’ve stated, geared in the direction of understanding it all and where to change and begin.
wheb a woman vassilates that’s a tactic for her to keep a guy in her frame. Correct?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Never. The precedence is set. Stop trying to get that woman. That is the whole problem. Just stop!!!!
Well it can’t be fixed and the same way forever. Things can change. Can they not?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I will not be party to your execution. Now go forth and pay the dues you owe. Nobody gets out for free. You are not special and every single man here has said the exact same things you’re saying. Do you think this is new to us? It’s the same old story. Welcome to the beginning of a whole new life. You’re welcome.
Thanks for your help
