Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Haha I’ve actually been listening and writing notes intently about what you’ve stated, geared in the direction of understanding it all and where to change and begin.
wheb a woman vassilates that’s a tactic for her to keep a guy in her frame. Correct?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Never. The precedence is set. Stop trying to get that woman. That is the whole problem. Just stop!!!!
Well it can’t be fixed and the same way forever. Things can change. Can they not?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I will not be party to your execution. Now go forth and pay the dues you owe. Nobody gets out for free. You are not special and every single man here has said the exact same things you’re saying. Do you think this is new to us? It’s the same old story. Welcome to the beginning of a whole new life. You’re welcome.
Thanks for your help
