"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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help would be appreciated as soon as possible

guayaballer

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their is a girl i like that after night school we always take the bus together after nights school we talk alot and i always make fun of her then giver her hugs kino her but on tuesday i put my arm around her and we took a picture together on her cell phone i left my arm on her but after 10 seconds she said she was uncomfortable and i thought to myself crap i was gun make my move. well i am going to see her again after school and since she said she was uncomfortable that time i feel a little uncertain about making my move but when i do and if she doesnt react well to it i wanted to know what to say or do so things dont get akward. oh and would it be easier to get a kiss if we are waiting for the bus or if we are sitting next to eachother
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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oakraiderz2

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Ask her to hang out on the weekend. Then you can judge whether or not you even have a shot.
 

Buick

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Yep i agree with the above, In my opinoin you need to hang out with her more outside of school/school bus etc then guege how it is between you two. I dont suggest making a move on the bus, because it's kind of an awkward, more public situation.
'Extract to a seducing location'
Or just be in a less public place to get over the awkwardness of a 1st kiss.
Just my 2 cents
 

Demo

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The guys have valid points about isolation but the are missing one massive thing here. Does she know that you are sexually interested in her?

Is the only physical contact you have with her hugs and the end of the night? This is your big problem for a kick off if this is true there is no sexual indicators there at all.

Its good to make a girl laugh, Her friends make her laugh however.

Thats why she freaked when you put your arm around her. In her mind you crossed a boundary.

Make your sexual interest more clear over the course of the next few days.
 

shydude

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Just make moves like you dont care. never care wtf shes gonna think. just make a dam move as fast as you can, the faster you do it the faster you will know if she stays your friend, or if she becomes your girl. Overtthinking these problems will only make it worse. Thats probably couse u never made big movs before you are really unsecure. But in reality there is nothing to care about, it doesnt matter what she will think, B1thces come n go.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Zerotwoonenine

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k i think you have fallen into the friendship zone, unluks man. This girl is gone
 
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