"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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help would be appreciated as soon as possible

guayaballer

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their is a girl i like that after night school we always take the bus together after nights school we talk alot and i always make fun of her then giver her hugs kino her but on tuesday i put my arm around her and we took a picture together on her cell phone i left my arm on her but after 10 seconds she said she was uncomfortable and i thought to myself crap i was gun make my move. well i am going to see her again after school and since she said she was uncomfortable that time i feel a little uncertain about making my move but when i do and if she doesnt react well to it i wanted to know what to say or do so things dont get akward. oh and would it be easier to get a kiss if we are waiting for the bus or if we are sitting next to eachother
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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oakraiderz2

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Ask her to hang out on the weekend. Then you can judge whether or not you even have a shot.
 

Buick

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Yep i agree with the above, In my opinoin you need to hang out with her more outside of school/school bus etc then guege how it is between you two. I dont suggest making a move on the bus, because it's kind of an awkward, more public situation.
'Extract to a seducing location'
Or just be in a less public place to get over the awkwardness of a 1st kiss.
Just my 2 cents
 

Demo

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The guys have valid points about isolation but the are missing one massive thing here. Does she know that you are sexually interested in her?

Is the only physical contact you have with her hugs and the end of the night? This is your big problem for a kick off if this is true there is no sexual indicators there at all.

Its good to make a girl laugh, Her friends make her laugh however.

Thats why she freaked when you put your arm around her. In her mind you crossed a boundary.

Make your sexual interest more clear over the course of the next few days.
 

shydude

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Just make moves like you dont care. never care wtf shes gonna think. just make a dam move as fast as you can, the faster you do it the faster you will know if she stays your friend, or if she becomes your girl. Overtthinking these problems will only make it worse. Thats probably couse u never made big movs before you are really unsecure. But in reality there is nothing to care about, it doesnt matter what she will think, B1thces come n go.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Zerotwoonenine

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k i think you have fallen into the friendship zone, unluks man. This girl is gone
 
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