"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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help with this could possibly cure all my failures with girls

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ever since i can remember i could get a girl to be interested in me. i can get her to laugh easily playfully touch me bust her ball kino her etc. and sumtimes hold decent conversations but the problem is im always stuck at this point with the girl she sees i am a fun laidback guy and i can basically tell she likes me eventually things stay the same and her interest in me starts to decline to the point where its just a simple hey in the hallways. and the same thing happens with every single girl and i am really sick of it and i want to know what am i doing wrong or what part of the game im missing or something im not doing. if i can just get past this problem i know i can finally be succesful. maybe any of you guys have been through this too?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Making a move. Do you like sitting in a state in which youre not progressing? Youre either moving forward or backward. So next time, tell her you two are gonnd hang out and then itll be just peachy once you lay one on her.
 
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thank you for the advice raiderz. what about if a girl is already getting kinoed by other guys and other guys neg her and make her laugh how would i distinguish myself from the other guys when its my time alone with her?
 
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Look at it this way...you say you get her interested? So, ask her to hang out with you on the weekend or something. Get away from the structure of school so kino can be escalated to kissing or something. As for at school, be seeing with other girls, ignore her occasionally, and greet her while shes getting jocked. If youre the one chilling with her on the weekends getting some love then thats all that matters.
 
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guayaballer said:
thank you for the advice raiderz. what about if a girl is already getting kinoed by other guys and other guys neg her and make her laugh how would i distinguish myself from the other guys when its my time alone with her?
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dude, you are different. forget those guys. if you got her talked up ask her out and then make like a ghost. When you see em make some moves. SEXUAL MOVES. let them know your not they're boy buddy. girls are teases and flirts IF you let them. Dont. make your intentions known.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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BobFuest said:
dude, you are different. forget those guys. if you got her talked up ask her out and then make like a ghost. When you see em make some moves. SEXUAL MOVES. let them know your not they're boy buddy. girls are teases and flirts IF you let them. Dont. make your intentions known.
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Good advice. I would also recommend though you that you clearly convey your intentions (more than just friend) BEFORE you ask her out, because way too many guys in highschool hide behind the "let's hang out phrase" which feel so comfortable because if the girl says no, then hey, it was just a friendly invitation. Girls don't like that **** though. They like guys with balls who take risks and aren't afraid to show sexual interest.

If she keeps showing you positive signs after you show your sexual interest verbally (smiling, laughing, kino) then make sure you ask her out and IT IS ON from there. All you have to do is physically escalate on the date. Hope this helps bro.
 
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