"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Help with new girlfriend situation
- Thread starter MaddXMan
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
A woman who is into you and committed wouldn't even entertain this idea...she probably has disillusionment in commitment because of her past, but what she doesn't understand is the boundaries of this world and respect, and she is challenging both of those things and in fact just blindly walking right through them.
Keep you and your kids in a good place, don't let this woman's mental confusion and inabilities fvck with you too much.
Argh...facebook makes relationships so much more complex than necessary.
Piece of Advice for those who Use Facebook: Just remove your relationship information entirely -- don't describe whether you're single, engaged, in a relationship, whatever -- just keep your relationship absent from facebook entirely it can bite you in the ass a thousand fold and gives a bunch of "friends" who are essentially voyeurs on your life gossip and an opening to pick into your relationship. My $0.02, take it for what it is!
She, by telling you she's thinking about dating another guy, is essentially saying I don't respect you and I think you are a ***** with no backbone and I think you'll just take it and fight for the scraps.
When a woman goes this route the only acceptable move is to say something like that's cool or some other variant where you appear to be cool calm and unaffected. You then cut her out of your llife and never speak to her again.
Of course the key is not to even get into situations like this, but it does happen.
Yes, but The_411, I love her, and we are so good together, and you don't know how she is when we're together yada yada yada.
You can't get much more discpectful than this and being angry, spiteful vengeful only validates her behavior and feelings.
These are the type of women who screw it up for some other women and make us men so jaded. The problem is that this woman hasn't been called to task for her shockingly bad behavior.
If you stick around you will get burned badly and will waste time on someone who is useless and doesn't deserve a second more of your time.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
Plenty of flakesgaspipe said:
iqqi
Master Don Juan
This chick is just not that into you, my friend. Don't you want to be with a woman who is REALLY into you?
Let's go over what the hell happened here:
Hold up. First and foremost.MaddXMan said:
"I said shouldn't you go out on your other dates before making your decision?"
Her what? Her decision?
So let me get this straight. She gets to go out on other dates... and still have a decision?
Do you hear yourself?
You just gave her all that power.
And the first part, her text was complete B.S.
She should have been thinking about the way you look at her, and your kiss, a lot more. Maybe if that stuff really meant something to her, she wouldn't be going on other dates! What a drama queen! Do you really need that crap at this stage in your life????
YOU called and asked her on a date???????MaddXMan said:
Damn, this woman must be amazing. She's got dates pimped up around the clock, and you are still throwing yourself at her even though you are fully aware of her pimping ways!
This was a major move of self disrespect.
Another poster had it right. She will leave you alone when you stop responding to her. Maybe you can start by not asking her out on dates when she has already discarded your intimacy for other dates???MaddXMan said:
MAN. Seriously. Have some self respect here. Be an example for your children. Take no bulls!t.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nutz
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5string said:
Not a test IMO, just flat out grounds for dumping her. There's a reason women have to resort to online dating, and don't you guys forget it! If they had their **** together in teh real world they wouldn't be in that predicament in the first place. Granted some supplement things by having an account they check once a month, but often times that turns into a validation game on their part that they only check when they're in the doldrums/bored. The ones that actually rely on online dating and actually meet men from online, those are the ones that are kookoo bananas.
My advice to the OP is to tell her, "you know what, that's fine. I thought we were beyond seeing other people, but since you've opened the door there's some women I'd like to date as well now that I think about it". Proceed to spin more plates and keep her in your lineup until you tire of her.
Also, what the frak are you guys doing with single mothers????!!!! Steer clear of them like the plague. Boy did I make that mistake once, but never again!
She was on the rebound and not ready for a new relationship. Thats for starters.
The second she said she wanted to go on a date with another guy she was through. As she should be. Walk. Deal with the pain and you will meet someone better.
How to walk away? Just leave and don't say anything. You already explained yourself and its kinda ridiculous to talk about why. Because she knows.
These women are a trip man.
Pair A Dice
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