I started dating my gf the first week of May, so it's been 4 months.
We met on pof.
Instand rapport. Tons of fun whenever we were together. Lots of pda.
She told me she loved me after 3 weeks. I am 43, she is 35.
We each have 2 kids. All the kids have met each other as we have done lots of activities together.
She got divorced in Oct 10 - so has been divorced 10 months, from a 12 year marriage.
I have been divorced 8 years.
I thought there was a risk of her being on the rebound so held my feelings in check initially. But gradually gave in to loving her as things were going so well.
Now she's been acting funny the last week. When I asked her why, she said: "A guy who I have known for a long time wants to take me out on a date. I think I want to go, but I have to be up front and honest with you about it. I am assuming you don’t want me to date anyone else, but I think I want to. The last thing I want to do is hurt you, but I have to be truthful about this. So tell me what you’re thinking…."
I was floored by this, told her no time for these kind of games, she's the one who needs to figure things out not me, and to call me whenever she gets her head right. Her response:
"That’s true, I do need to figure things out. I’m surprised that you don’t want anything to do with me if I go on this date. Keep in mind, I haven’t done anything wrong. Well, I guess I haven’t in my mind. Yes, I said I love you first and I meant it. Just because I love you doesn’t mean that I will never date anyone else for the rest of my life! How can you think I’m playing games with you? I told you the truth before I acted on anything. I don’t consider that playing games. I’ll admit I’m a bit taken back right now at how mad you are at me."
So she thinks I'm really mad. Disappointed and shocked, but not furious at her.
It's not cool that she see's other people. That is not part of the agreement we made when we began to get serious - I like exclusive when things reach a certain point.
Just really not sure what to do now. Still numb, I had no idea this was coming. She never gave any signals, always was into me/us. No signals this was coming.
We met on pof.
Instand rapport. Tons of fun whenever we were together. Lots of pda.
She told me she loved me after 3 weeks. I am 43, she is 35.
We each have 2 kids. All the kids have met each other as we have done lots of activities together.
She got divorced in Oct 10 - so has been divorced 10 months, from a 12 year marriage.
I have been divorced 8 years.
I thought there was a risk of her being on the rebound so held my feelings in check initially. But gradually gave in to loving her as things were going so well.
Now she's been acting funny the last week. When I asked her why, she said: "A guy who I have known for a long time wants to take me out on a date. I think I want to go, but I have to be up front and honest with you about it. I am assuming you don’t want me to date anyone else, but I think I want to. The last thing I want to do is hurt you, but I have to be truthful about this. So tell me what you’re thinking…."
I was floored by this, told her no time for these kind of games, she's the one who needs to figure things out not me, and to call me whenever she gets her head right. Her response:
"That’s true, I do need to figure things out. I’m surprised that you don’t want anything to do with me if I go on this date. Keep in mind, I haven’t done anything wrong. Well, I guess I haven’t in my mind. Yes, I said I love you first and I meant it. Just because I love you doesn’t mean that I will never date anyone else for the rest of my life! How can you think I’m playing games with you? I told you the truth before I acted on anything. I don’t consider that playing games. I’ll admit I’m a bit taken back right now at how mad you are at me."
So she thinks I'm really mad. Disappointed and shocked, but not furious at her.
It's not cool that she see's other people. That is not part of the agreement we made when we began to get serious - I like exclusive when things reach a certain point.
Just really not sure what to do now. Still numb, I had no idea this was coming. She never gave any signals, always was into me/us. No signals this was coming.