"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Help with HB8 Nurse

Niterider450

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Visiting my Grandmother who recently had a fall and injured herself and has to stay in a nursing home until she has recovered. Turns out one of her nurse's is this very hot tall early 20's chick I have had a crush on for a long time.

The first interaction with her: she comes into the room and we make eye contact and have some good rapport talking about her dogs then she goes on about her business. A few minutes later as I leaving I come face to face with her in the hall we make eye contact and talk a little.

Sunday I am in the checkout line at a dollar store when she walks in we make eye contact and she looks away first. (We were about 20 yards away from each other so I didn't attempt to talk to her plus she is with three other girls.)

Ok tonight she comes in the room while I am visiting my grandma I speak to her and she avoids eye contact and seems to ignore me. But there was another nurse close and my aunt was also in the room.

Should I back off? I may have been to aggressive the first interaction? Or maybe I dropped the ball at the dollar store?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Remember she is paid to be nice to you.
 

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I don't get the feeling that she has much IL in you based on what you have articulated.

I do believe though that when it comes to classifying women in any manor, nurses are the top of the gene pool in my opinion. I come from a family with many nurses; mom, grandma, aunt, cousin, plus a couple of my best friends' wives. Plus one male friend of mine is a nurse full time and a cop part time. Being a nurse is one of the toughest jobs and you can't be a nurse unless you are skilled at and have a desire for caring for people. I think nurses carry that skill and desire to care for people over into their personal lives and thus make great partners.

OP, I'd say forget this specific HB but go find yourself another nurse!
 

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Dear Niterider,
One should not generalise about nurses,but the good looking ones generally marry Doctors....Nothing will happen here it is just an infatuation,you are probably young,these things are a Rite Of Passage LOL.
 

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Niterider450 said:
Visiting my Grandmother who recently had a fall and injured herself and has to stay in a nursing home until she has recovered. Turns out one of her nurse's is this very hot tall early 20's chick I have had a crush on for a long time.

The first interaction with her: she comes into the room and we make eye contact and have some good rapport talking about her dogs then she goes on about her business. A few minutes later as I leaving I come face to face with her in the hall we make eye contact and talk a little.

Sunday I am in the checkout line at a dollar store when she walks in we make eye contact and she looks away first. (We were about 20 yards away from each other so I didn't attempt to talk to her plus she is with three other girls.)

Ok tonight she comes in the room while I am visiting my grandma I speak to her and she avoids eye contact and seems to ignore me. But there was another nurse close and my aunt was also in the room.

Should I back off? I may have been to aggressive the first interaction? Or maybe I dropped the ball at the dollar store?
If you have known her for a long time then you need to understand that the likelihood of you ever tasting her vag1na is remote.

Women can smell when a guy is interested in them a country mile away. This nurse rightly interprets your LACK OF ACTING on your interest as a LACK OF CONFIDENCE.

When beautiful women like you, they will NOT risk rejection by overtly making their feelings known. Why would they when they have 50 orbiters blowing up their phone asking them to "go out some time"? Rather, YOU need to take action ASAP by getting her number/asking her out (not telling her your feelings). In effect, she indirectly uses her looks as a filter to weed out the AFCs who do not have the balls to make a move on her

In this particular case, the outcome will probably not be what you want, and that doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. However, the pain from this situation will motivate you in the future to take action ASAP when you are interested in a girl and to protect your heart.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Scaramouche said:
Dear Niterider,
One should not generalise about nurses,but the good looking ones generally marry Doctors....Nothing will happen here it is just an infatuation,you are probably young,these things are a Rite Of Passage LOL.
No I'm 34 and it's not a nurse fetish. lol
 

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jimmy18 said:
If you have known her for a long time then you need to understand that the likelihood of you ever tasting her vag1na is remote.

Women can smell when a guy is interested in them a country mile away. This nurse rightly interprets your LACK OF ACTING on your interest as a LACK OF CONFIDENCE.

When beautiful women like you, they will NOT risk rejection by overtly making their feelings known. Why would they when they have 50 orbiters blowing up their phone asking them to "go out some time"? Rather, YOU need to take action ASAP by getting her number/asking her out (not telling her your feelings). In effect, she indirectly uses her looks as a filter to weed out the AFCs who do not have the balls to make a move on her

In this particular case, the outcome will probably not be what you want, and that doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. However, the pain from this situation will motivate you in the future to take action ASAP when you are interested in a girl and to protect your heart.
Thanks for your reply and advice. I should have gave a little more information I don't really know her just seen her around and am very attracted to her. She is tall about 6 ft and has a very good body. I only talked to her once before about a year and half ago. She approached me while we were both a carwash and gave me a phone charger that she was no longer using. I dropped the ball that day and have been kicking myself every since. I do know that her longterm boyfriend recently broke up with her and she is still single.
 

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Ok today I am in the room with my grandma and she walks down the hall twice making eye contact with me. When she enters the room we talk a little small talk. (my mind went blank). I sense some attraction from her. Should I try to make a date or build more report?
 

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MOTU said:
Please, don't feed the trolls..
Come on, really?

( . )( . ) and I have figured out who the trolls and women are on here. Why do the rest of you guys insist on neg rep to the new people and punching them to the ground just like the women do (like zarkey and all of her billion aliases on this site)... I'm sorry but when a new person posts on here wanting advice, don't neg rep them and call them trolls.. WTF??? Aren't you a higher level man who is better than that, who has reached a higher status, and are confident enough in said status to want to share how you got there in a positive/non agressive manor? Or am I misjudging the men who I share this site with? Do I need go to some other site to learn more about men???
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I am damn sick of how new people on this site get degraded just like they do from the women they are trying to come here to learn more about.. You guys doing all this neg repping to new people are insecure yourselves...
 

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Niterider450 said:
(my mind went blank)QUOTE]

Yeah I think that happpens to a lot of males. I think I’ts nerves. Ignore it…it crops up at the most important moments to try & freeze you..IGNORE IT. It’s really not easy to do, but do it.

Talk to her about the situation..something about the situation or tell her a funny story that happened to you or something funny you saw over last week. What are you thinking of saying to her?
 

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Sunday I am in the checkout line at a dollar store when she walks in we make eye contact and she looks away first.

tonight she comes in the room while I am visiting my grandma I speak to her and she avoids eye contact and seems to ignore me.

today I am in the room with my grandma and she walks down the hall twice making eye contact with me.
You are trying to evaluate her IL in you solely by having eye contact with you. If your boss make eye contact with you, does it mean he's planning on asking you out on a date? NO.

There is a lot more to seduction than reading her cues. The only way you're going to learn how to read a woman's eye contact cues is to actually FIND OUT if she's attracted to you. Once you bang some of the women who've made eye contact with you, you'll be able to spot a woman's initial interest quite easily.

Only through practice will you get the knowledge needed in order to evaluate her interest. Here's some 'inexperienced' and 'experienced' situations. This is how your evaluation of a situation will progress:

- She looked at me. Does this mean she's interested?
- She keeps looking at me. She's interested!

- Her leg touched mine. I should move it so she's not offended.
- Her leg is touching mine. She initiated kino! She's interested.

- She approached me and initiated conversation. Is she just being friendly or does she actually like me?
- She initiated conversation! Time to proceed with seduction.

Over time, you will become much more aware of subtle cues, but only after recognizing patterns from your previously successful seductions. By putting yourself outside your comfort zone and attempting to progress your interaction, you will learn what works, what doesn't, and what her cues are in order to proceed to the next level.
 
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