"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Help with Fear of Success

DJ Red

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I believe I've figured out what's holding me back when asking for the sale (girls, business, interviews, etc.).

Fear of Success.

Are there any threads in here along those lines, other things I can read, or perhaps some advice to get past that?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Fear of SUCCESS? Surely success should be the reason you are approaching girls in the first place! Why are you afraid of success? Being successful is a very positive thing, so are you telling me that you'd rather fail?
 

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I'd say you fear success with women because you don't, on some level, feel ready to have a relationship; and of course new territory in any scenario can be scary.

But you have to learn to leave your comfort zone sometimes man, it's the only way you'll grow as a person.
 

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You know what Marco? I agree with him

Think about it this way: we fear what we do not know, something that is new to us, something we have not seen for ourselves yet.

Simply, we sometimes fear things OUT of out comfort zone.

For some people, [failure] is something they are used to, and has become their comfort zone. And yes, whether we want it or not, we are afraid to break that pattern and actually succeed.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Makro2323

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Good point, perhaps it's just difficult for me to see it in that way because ultimately outcomes like failure and rejection seem relatively worse to me than that of success. Perhaps we should just call it fear of change. If failure was my comfort zone, and success was something I felt apprehensive about, then I'd place the two side by side and hopefully realise that it's better to live my life attempting to try for success than to stay in a comfortable environment of failure.
 

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It's not just approaching girls. Mainly, it's involving the business I am starting.

Now that it's been mentioned, I do believe it's a confort zone issue. "Can I handle it?" sort of thing.
 
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