"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Help with Fear of Success

DJ Red

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I believe I've figured out what's holding me back when asking for the sale (girls, business, interviews, etc.).

Fear of Success.

Are there any threads in here along those lines, other things I can read, or perhaps some advice to get past that?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Makro2323

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Fear of SUCCESS? Surely success should be the reason you are approaching girls in the first place! Why are you afraid of success? Being successful is a very positive thing, so are you telling me that you'd rather fail?
 

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I'd say you fear success with women because you don't, on some level, feel ready to have a relationship; and of course new territory in any scenario can be scary.

But you have to learn to leave your comfort zone sometimes man, it's the only way you'll grow as a person.
 

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You know what Marco? I agree with him

Think about it this way: we fear what we do not know, something that is new to us, something we have not seen for ourselves yet.

Simply, we sometimes fear things OUT of out comfort zone.

For some people, [failure] is something they are used to, and has become their comfort zone. And yes, whether we want it or not, we are afraid to break that pattern and actually succeed.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Makro2323

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Good point, perhaps it's just difficult for me to see it in that way because ultimately outcomes like failure and rejection seem relatively worse to me than that of success. Perhaps we should just call it fear of change. If failure was my comfort zone, and success was something I felt apprehensive about, then I'd place the two side by side and hopefully realise that it's better to live my life attempting to try for success than to stay in a comfortable environment of failure.
 

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It's not just approaching girls. Mainly, it's involving the business I am starting.

Now that it's been mentioned, I do believe it's a confort zone issue. "Can I handle it?" sort of thing.
 
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