"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alrite, I was dating this girl for about 5 months. She started to act all flakey b/c she said she was "bored" which was all my fault. I decided to go on a "break" and she says she still has feelings for me, and we are thinking about getting back together. Well after a week of not seeing eachother I invite her to come along with a group of friends to watch a baseball game. We made a lot of signs of physical contact, like playful hitting, and she put her head on my shoulder a lot, but when i tried to hold her hand she refused, yet she had no problem putting her head on my shoulder?

Here's my question, I just want her as a mate for the next few months, before I go to school, what would be the best possible action for me? Just to ganji her? Or keep taking her out and actually try to talk my way back, I haven't been giving her too much attention, and we haven't been talking on the phone THAT much either.

I just need some advice on how I can get her back. (PS I'm still going after new girls to date in the mean time, I just want this one back for a second try.)

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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forgot to mention she later apologized for not holding my hand, saying "it just didnt feel right"

and that this girl has guys drooling all over her, and she has never been DUMPED. I was the first one.

Not to mention that she called me immediatly after her softball team won sectionals, and she still answers the phone when I call, also took the time to hang out with me today when she could have just said her parents said no.
 
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ask her on a date, kino, flirting, etc...
when the time comes kiss?...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by cyjay201
forgot to mention she later apologized for not holding my hand, saying "it just didnt feel right"
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ok thats just kinda wierd...
The only thing i can come up with is that maybe she is playin hard to get.

I wouldn't get worked up over something like this. It sounds like shes giving you a lot of mixed signals and bs. I would just keep hanging out with her. This could be just an ego thing since you dumped her. If i were you i wouldn't pursue a relationship with her, since you guys already broke up. BUT, if you decide you do want a relationship don't be surprised if it doesn't last long. My advice: just keep hanging out and if you decide to get back together, just talk to her about it and go from there. Hope that helped
 
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