"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help, what is my next step?

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I hung out with this girl, we have mutual friends. I found out she was interested through our mutual friend. I decided to message her, and it went like this:

Me: Hey, if you're gonna be around this weekend let's go out and have some fun. What's your number?

Her: hey, yea we should do something sometime -sucks tho a lot of the weekends coming up are bad for me, i have to finish my senior thesis and ive been helping my sis get ready for her baby so i go home a lot, but im usually here off and on thru the weekdays... sorry its a mess haha but anyway maybe we cud all do somethin again -9**3***4**
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jonblood said:
I hung out with this girl, we have mutual friends. I found out she was interested through our mutual friend. I decided to message her, and it went like this:

Me: Hey, if you're gonna be around this weekend let's go out and have some fun. What's your number?

Her: hey, yea we should do something sometime -sucks tho a lot of the weekends coming up are bad for me, i have to finish my senior thesis and ive been helping my sis get ready for her baby so i go home a lot, but im usually here off and on thru the weekdays... sorry its a mess haha but anyway maybe we cud all do somethin again -9**3***4**
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Okay, first of all... how do you NOT know what to do next?
What isn't clear enough from her message to you?

Let's go step-by-step:

#1: She gave you her phone number. So what do you think you should do with it??? It's not TEXT and it rhymes with MALL... that's right, CALL. You call her and you set up a date.

#2: She said a lot of weekends are bad for her, but she is around on weekdays. So when you do CALL... what do you think is the next logical step? Right... you tell her that you have a Thursday (or whatever day) available and that you want her to join you for some _______ (Insert coffee, bowling, pool, etc...).

#3: Make sure that when you call her... no more than a 15 minute phone call.

#4: Don't screw this up by putting too much pressure on yourself. The fact that you even have to ask what to do next when everything is so blatantly placed in front of you... has me worried.

She basically has served herself on a platter to you and has let you know why she can't do weekends but is available on some weekdays.

Good luck.
 
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She is busy. Make the dates fun and somewhat short (1-2 hours). Do something fun where she will take her mind off her thesis.

You are in control as long as you let yourself be in control. You already know she is into you man. Good job.
 
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Okay, so I texted her my number so she'd pick up when i decided to call - all is well. Now, I don't want to AFC this. I found out she's going out around here tonight, if I hit her up to meet up tonight i feel like that would be AFC from everything I've read on this site. Thoughts?
 
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Jonblood said:
I found out she was interested through our mutual friend.
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Dude, are you serious? You'd have to TRY to screw this up at this point. If you know she likes you, you should be escalating like a madman in a confident way. I don't think trying to meet up with her asap is bad at all if her interest level is truly to the point where she expressed her interest, knowing full well it would get back to you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Man strike while the irons hot suggest that u guys meet up somewhere fun to hangout and kino kino kino its awrap your in
 
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