"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Help, what is my next step?

Jonblood

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I hung out with this girl, we have mutual friends. I found out she was interested through our mutual friend. I decided to message her, and it went like this:

Me: Hey, if you're gonna be around this weekend let's go out and have some fun. What's your number?

Her: hey, yea we should do something sometime -sucks tho a lot of the weekends coming up are bad for me, i have to finish my senior thesis and ive been helping my sis get ready for her baby so i go home a lot, but im usually here off and on thru the weekdays... sorry its a mess haha but anyway maybe we cud all do somethin again -9**3***4**
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Kailex

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Jonblood said:
I hung out with this girl, we have mutual friends. I found out she was interested through our mutual friend. I decided to message her, and it went like this:

Me: Hey, if you're gonna be around this weekend let's go out and have some fun. What's your number?

Her: hey, yea we should do something sometime -sucks tho a lot of the weekends coming up are bad for me, i have to finish my senior thesis and ive been helping my sis get ready for her baby so i go home a lot, but im usually here off and on thru the weekdays... sorry its a mess haha but anyway maybe we cud all do somethin again -9**3***4**
Okay, first of all... how do you NOT know what to do next?
What isn't clear enough from her message to you?

Let's go step-by-step:

#1: She gave you her phone number. So what do you think you should do with it??? It's not TEXT and it rhymes with MALL... that's right, CALL. You call her and you set up a date.

#2: She said a lot of weekends are bad for her, but she is around on weekdays. So when you do CALL... what do you think is the next logical step? Right... you tell her that you have a Thursday (or whatever day) available and that you want her to join you for some _______ (Insert coffee, bowling, pool, etc...).

#3: Make sure that when you call her... no more than a 15 minute phone call.

#4: Don't screw this up by putting too much pressure on yourself. The fact that you even have to ask what to do next when everything is so blatantly placed in front of you... has me worried.

She basically has served herself on a platter to you and has let you know why she can't do weekends but is available on some weekdays.

Good luck.
 

brian123

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She is busy. Make the dates fun and somewhat short (1-2 hours). Do something fun where she will take her mind off her thesis.

You are in control as long as you let yourself be in control. You already know she is into you man. Good job.
 

Jonblood

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Okay, so I texted her my number so she'd pick up when i decided to call - all is well. Now, I don't want to AFC this. I found out she's going out around here tonight, if I hit her up to meet up tonight i feel like that would be AFC from everything I've read on this site. Thoughts?
 

thecurtainfalls

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Jonblood said:
I found out she was interested through our mutual friend.
Dude, are you serious? You'd have to TRY to screw this up at this point. If you know she likes you, you should be escalating like a madman in a confident way. I don't think trying to meet up with her asap is bad at all if her interest level is truly to the point where she expressed her interest, knowing full well it would get back to you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dubh

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Man strike while the irons hot suggest that u guys meet up somewhere fun to hangout and kino kino kino its awrap your in
 
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