"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help w/ a new girl I know.

DontDoDrugs

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Okok, First post...I've read a lot on here, and this is a somewhat unique situation.

Anyway, some background info : Im a sophomore, athletic, reputation around school is pretty good, but I'd like it to be better with ladies. Confident with my looks - It's not a big issue. Have had 2 g/f in past year, nothing major, and theres lots of room for improvement.

Anyway, heres the situation

Friday night, Im at a pretty usual poker game with friends. I pick up my friends cell phone and look through his humongous phone number database lol. I recognize most of the chicks from school, but one I dont, and im bored so I call her up lol. I call and Im messing with her a lot ( semi-prank call type ) But then I chill down a little and whatever cause I Saw her myspace and she actually looked good, and we have lots in common!

So anyway, I'll summerize where I'm at. Saw her at schol today and introduced myself. This was at snack about 5 mins after first bell rang. SHe greeted me with a genuine smile. We just said hey, what sup, blah blah for 1 min and she left. She seemed a little cautious since I came off as a weirdo on the phone lol.

Anyway, heres the thing. I'm not concerned with really worrying if she likes me or not, Its not a looks thing. But, I dont wanna come off as a freak calling her up outta the blue or just walking up to her and try to hang out. Im not sure what approach is really best for this. I was thinking to just play it cool this week and see If i can catch her alone or make some good eye contact and break some ice. If that doesn't happeN ( I have her in 0 classes ) I plan to call her in like 3 days and maybe just say whats up, ask to hangout, flirt a little, blah blah.

So tell me guys, what do you think is the best approach to this? And sorry if this is a weak post, it's my first :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm no DJ or anything but I think what you should do is...greet her a few more times in the mornings liek you did today, and then wednesday or thursday after you hopefully get in some good convo be like my friend gave me ur # im gunna call u to chill this weekend and just liek walk away not even letting her get a response in.
 

DontDoDrugs

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Haha, I like that "no reply" part, shows confidence.

I'll most likely do that. Any other suggestions welcome. thanks :)
 
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