Help! Very insecure/uncomfortable with GFs relationship with X
Alright guys, since i've been dating this girl, i've had the toughest time accepting her freindshipwith her X. We are very serious, so serious, she's moving in in a few months. We both have longterm plans and I don't see them changing.
We have countless disaggrements and fights over this guy. Basically, I'm very insecure and I don't like it. I don't see how theres any need to be friends with an X especially when you've moved on and are in love with someone esle. Somehow this girl argues that there is a resaon....basically just to catch up with a "friend."
here's an email she sent to me this morning after we both apologized after a fight last night over him contacting her.
" am looking forward and the only thing that is in the back.....is a FRIEND. NOTHING MORE, NOTHING LESS. I don't look at him in that way anymore and like I said when I do see him I dont have feelings for him I mostly feel sad that he is so unhappy with his life and won't go see someone to make it better.
All i want is for him to find happiness like I've found and every once in a while talking to him to see how things are going is something that I'd like to be able to do. I haven't seen him since after last Christmas for christ's sake! So do I want to see how things are in his life, yes......because I consider him a friend.
Either way, I still will keep contact at bay and try not to upset you.
"
Sure...I can TRY and let it go hoping it fades away, but honestly i can say that it will ALWAYS bother me to some degree. Do I just trust her, take her word for it, and continue to battle this emotionally? Any advice will be GREATLY appreciated.
Thanks DJs
Alright guys, since i've been dating this girl, i've had the toughest time accepting her freindshipwith her X. We are very serious, so serious, she's moving in in a few months. We both have longterm plans and I don't see them changing.
We have countless disaggrements and fights over this guy. Basically, I'm very insecure and I don't like it. I don't see how theres any need to be friends with an X especially when you've moved on and are in love with someone esle. Somehow this girl argues that there is a resaon....basically just to catch up with a "friend."
here's an email she sent to me this morning after we both apologized after a fight last night over him contacting her.
" am looking forward and the only thing that is in the back.....is a FRIEND. NOTHING MORE, NOTHING LESS. I don't look at him in that way anymore and like I said when I do see him I dont have feelings for him I mostly feel sad that he is so unhappy with his life and won't go see someone to make it better.
All i want is for him to find happiness like I've found and every once in a while talking to him to see how things are going is something that I'd like to be able to do. I haven't seen him since after last Christmas for christ's sake! So do I want to see how things are in his life, yes......because I consider him a friend.
Either way, I still will keep contact at bay and try not to upset you.
"
Sure...I can TRY and let it go hoping it fades away, but honestly i can say that it will ALWAYS bother me to some degree. Do I just trust her, take her word for it, and continue to battle this emotionally? Any advice will be GREATLY appreciated.
Thanks DJs