"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

help! too many girls!

iCY

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 3, 2004
Messages
84
Reaction score
0
Location
NYC!!!
Ive been at this for a about a year or so in my school and only now has it been paying off. Im starting to see alot of interest from ALOT of girls all at the same time. i can see my self, and alot of my friends have told me about 7 or 8 girls that like me currently and theres prolly more.

now the problem is i dont know what to do. ive goten to know most of these girls somewhat well and if i were to go out with one of them, the rest would be crushed. like most ppl im not really looking for a LTR, just some sex...... what would be the best way to do that with all of them and not have any of them find out? remember....these are highschool girls and most of them are somewhat innocent. =/ help!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

ThaDJ

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 2, 2005
Messages
35
Reaction score
0
pick one. there is nothing else you can do.. all of them will find out.
 

kiz

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2005
Messages
130
Reaction score
0
Age
39
yo, just start hookin up with all of them and go as far as you can until they force the "exclusivity" issue.
 

penkitten

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2001
Messages
8,256
Reaction score
236
Age
49
Location
at our house
wait = you dont gotta do anything yet.

this is not a urgent matter.

take a minute to reflect on it and smile dude. this doesnt happen every day to people so just smile.

now that the smile is on your face, think about these girls.
do they really really want you this bad , or do they want you more because there is competion?

after you have accessed the issue , decide for yourself if you want one of them, want to date around or whatever.

if you can t decide, then tell them all that you dont know any of them well enough to be exclusive. see who sticks around to tug your chain. see who tries to get to know you more and win you over, after that i think you will see if you really want one for a girlfriend or not.
 

Green_Day

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 20, 2005
Messages
24
Reaction score
0
Originally posted by kiz
yo, just start hookin up with all of them and go as far as you can until they force the "exclusivity" issue.
When they do start forcing exclusivity on you either say

a)If you have deep rapport with them:"I like you alot and I enjoy the time I spend with you however I do not feel I can make such a commitment at the moment and would appreciate an open relationship until I feel exclusivity is important to me"
b)If you dont really care:"If you cannot accept me going out with other girls then I fear I have misunderstood you and maybe we should just be friends
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Evil-Rom

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 27, 2003
Messages
858
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
,-._|\ ................... ............ / Aus \ ..
oh man send some over here
 

oakraiderz2

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2002
Messages
4,626
Reaction score
28
Age
40
Location
Colorado
Be greatful, i was in your position once kinda and it was greeeeeeeeeat. They all went to the same school and knew of each other. I miss those days.
 

JSH

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 20, 2003
Messages
1,088
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
London
I hate that, i diversified and picked up girls from other schools. But now its even worse as there is this whole network of girls and my m8s actually tell girls to stay away from me (an aphrodisiac for most of the girls). You are going to end up hurting some. Just go for the one you most want to get and then down in that order. Leaving the sluttiest one till last, cos she wont mind having slippy 3rds
 

Mr. Debonaire

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2004
Messages
544
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
in front of my computer
Originally posted by JSH
my m8s actually tell girls to stay away from me
awwww... are the wee little girls a little jealous? :rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Top