Help! Think I just did it for the first time

[DonJuan11]

Ok boys, I think I just did it for the first time but we had a problem and I'm not excited, happy, or relieved.

Anyway long story short....Making out on a couch while watching a movie (asian girl, fairly decent looking, body good, small breasts, she knows I have my card and she doesn't) Anyway clothes start coming off and I tell her I think I'm falling in love with her (which is true) and she says "do you want to go to the bedroom?" and I say "yes". Get there, she takes off her pants and top, is down to her underwear, start kissing and fooling around on the bed for a while, I give oral and touch her everywhere but still have the underwear on. She is reaching in there and trying to guide me in but I keep thinking about a condom. Go get one, leave it on the bed, fool around some more. Put condom on but I'm not hard at this point. I've lost the excitement (to tell the truth, I never really really had it when we moved to bedroom) She says "you are not hard" and tries to change positions to give me a hand job but I still couldn't get it going. Then she says she has to go home because of her mom.

Anyway I'm not happy because I don't think it was nerves that didn't keep the battleship going. I was either not turned on or I watch too much porn or something, but I really don't think it was nerves. Can anyone relate? Any solutions? Am I still a virgin? Please help.

 

[ketostix]

She says "you are not hard" and tries to change positions to give me a hand job but I still couldn't get it going. Then she says she has to go home because of her mom.

Don't you just love how patient and understanding a girl is even when it's your first time? And everyone acts like a woman has to coddle when losing hers. And you even told her, "you were falling love with her". You are still a virgin basically. Anyway, good job on taking it that far. How about a FR with how you met and got her to this point?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Hand jobs are lame. If she had started giving you head, you would have gotten hard again. Don't say anything about this happening to her, act like it never did. She will blame herself; let her.

At least nobody got pregnant.

 

[spax]

same thing happened to me recently. couldnt get hard. iim gonna stop masturbating for a while.

 

[Rebound Material]

just out of curiousity, how old are you OP?

Its good that she at least she knew you held the card. I've always been too embarrassed to tell girls that whenever I was in your situation(3 times now) fearing that they just might stop or get turned off. Sucks cuz each time we're getting it on, IMthe one that decides to stop...

 

[KontrollerX]

For future reference never tell a chick you love her first.

As for the rest the other brothers gave you solid advice.

 

[DonJuan11]

Ok boys its been about 4 hours since the episode and I can't sleep because I don't feel I can get it up anymore. Is this normal? I'm trying to think of everything that worked before from movies but nothing is happening. I'm kind of freaking out.

 

[KontrollerX]

The more you freak out about not being able to get it up the more you won't be able to get it up.

You have to get back into a relaxed state and just let things flow.

Get relaxed watch a porn movie and then magic shall happen.

 

[dav27]

Ok boys its been about 4 hours since the episode and I can't sleep because I don't feel I can get it up anymore. Is this normal? I'm trying to think of everything that worked before from movies but nothing is happening. I'm kind of freaking out.

I think you've just answered your own question.

Real sex is nothing like the movies, you're probably so used to it you're finding it hard to adjust. Just learn to relax, the more you freak out about it the more difficult you're going to make it.

Next time focus on enjoying yourself.

 

[Grizou]

Just stop wankin' and watching porn for a few days before you see her the next time...

 

[DonJuan11]

Just stop wankin' and watching porn for a few days before you see her the next time...

I'll try man. I'm watching porn right now to see if I can get something going but nothing is turning me on. I really thought the first time I would have no problem whatsoever. I usually get excited when I hold hands and then when I see the same women naked on my bed the same night....nothing.

 

[ZenGodMod]

Haha! Finally the boys realise the trigger has never been the sight of naked body, but state of a relaxed, sexaul and receptive mind!

The promblem is not your body, its your head.

Funny enough that advice of laying off porn and wanking might just work.

For now, better make sure your in good graces with the asian bird, she may never sing you a tone again!

 

[Quiksilver]

My alarm bells started ringing when you said you were a virgin, and you think you are falling in love with her.

In response to your question... Do YOU think you are still a virgin? In that situation, I would think so.

Time for you to read the DJ Bible.

 

[DonJuan11]

My alarm bells started ringing when you said you were a virgin, and you think you are falling in love with her.

In response to your question... Do YOU think you are still a virgin? In that situation, I would think so.

I don't care about the love part, I was just trying to get laid.

As for being a virgin, I'm angry because I bvtch and complain constantly to my friends I can't get some and finally when its there I'm not even turned on with a naked girl on my bed letting me do anything to her. No more porn for me boys and girls.

 

[Warrior74]

It's just your nerves little brother. Nothing wrong with you or the gear. You've built up a lot of pressure on this...do what these other guys suggest. cut the porn, cut the wacking. do 50 push ups every morning. to pump up your testoterone and practice relaxing.

When you get with this girl again. slow it down and take your time. Get her to give you some head. and take your time. Good luck brother. You can do this.

 

[amoka]

How old are you? Where were your parents when all this was happening?

 

[thedeparted]

Performance anxiety.

A good solution is to tell her you don't want to have sex. That will make her see you as a challenge and try harder which will increase your arousal. It will also take the pressure off you.

Then, at some point, while you are no longer worried about having to perform, and she is working hard to undermine your no sex rule, you'll just stick it in there on accident.

My first time was in the morning, after sleeping with her at night, and having that nice morning hard-on, which does not even require arousal.

 

[DonJuan11]

How old are you? Where were your parents when all this was happening?

29, she is 28. She lives with her mother and my parents are in another country. It's weird how everyone says it was my nerves when my heart wasn't pounding and I wasn't sweating at all. Maybe it was the girl? I don't know.

Perfect opportunity to lose the V-card and f- it up like everything else.

 

[Vice]

29, she is 28. She lives with her mother and my parents are in another country. It's weird how everyone says it was my nerves when my heart wasn't pounding and I wasn't sweating at all. Maybe it was the girl? I don't know.

Perfect opportunity to lose the V-card and f- it up like everything else.

Wait, almost 800 posts? Are you twenty-nine?

I'm a little curious, what exactly have you been posting about all this time...?

 

[DonJuan11]

I'm a little curious, what exactly have you been posting about all this time...?

Read the posts if you are curious.