"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Help! Think I just did it for the first time
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dude, you need to chill on the porn. You'll become desensitized by it. Then you'll need more of it and weird sh1t to get you off. So, if you're going to whack it, don't do it to porn.
Which was it that helped her do it the best? Being from Ohio, being Muslim, or both?Warrior74 said:well kill yourself blud. I've had great handjobs from women. I knew a muslim girl from ohio who did this two handed thing....wow.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
To your first point, I said what I had to so she would want to sleep with me.Mavrick said:
To your second point, I'm done with porn. A naked girl in my room on my bed allowing me to do anything I want and I can't get it up is porn's fault.
Ken785
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
shyt, i missed this the first time around... telling a girl you "love" here so that you can get in her pants is not DJ at all, in fact it s quite the contrary. I don't care what anybody else says, but straight up lying about your feelings to get into a girl's pants is despicable.DonJuan11 said:
Do you love her? Do you have those love feelings like you do for your family? If not, then you don't love her. Those tingly feelings you get for the 1st 2 years go away. Then your left with a woman you never took the chance to get to know because you supplicated, begged, and ignored red flags.DonJuan11 said:
Start thinking with your mind and not with your d|ck or heart. If you want a lay, then you need to be the one in control. If you think porn is causing you to go limp, then stop. If it's your nerves, then change your thoughts. Look at the positive side instead of the negative.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
DonJuan11..
you have been here since Aug. which is 9 months or so and have posted nearly 800 times.
i have been here for over 5 years and dont have half as many posts that you do.
now these statements may seem irrelevant, but when you have the time to post that much and STILL not understand the concepts that are taught and learned on this board, it gets very irritating.
i come to this forum to help people and have others help me, but it seems as if you dont take advice or even read the material that you have easily available to you.
I LOVE YOU ....????
even if you never made it to this forum you would know better than to fabricate this.
take the time to read the dj bible. and if you have already, REREAD it.
you dont have to take everyones advice on this board, but atleast take the time to educate yourself on becoming a better MAN.
dont take my post as insulting to you at all. i just think that if you spend the time on the forum you should be able to take something from it, and i want to contribute to others has others continue to contribute to my success in life not just with women
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I rarely say this. But seriously. Do you have mental issues? Sexual Hang ups? A history of abuse? Gay tendencies? Low testoterone? High estrogen? Are you just terrified of sex? You don't have to anwser any of these here on the forum. Just ask yourself and admit the truth to youself and then be a man and deal with which ever one it is via medical or professional help. I would almost suggest just getting a high class call girl to get rid of your V card if you are just afraid. But you have to decide for yourself. Good luck.DonJuan11 said:
anyway, all i can say is get together with her again, and give it another go. just don't think so much--let it happen. have confidence, and you'll be alright.