"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HELP - Scared of life,scared of getting a job.

Mr.Positive

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Latinoman said:
If he wants to work for an Embassy or the U.S. State Department...the fact that he has worked as a teacher overseas would be a plus in his resume.
:up: Also, the multicultural experience is good preparation for a corporate job in international business, or working as an interpreter....not to mention there is plenty of opportunities teaching English right here, in the US.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If the idea of picking a career is agony for you, then don't.

All the money in the world means nothing when you come to the end of the road. All those people, slaving away for money, their train ain't moving no slower than yours! And when they get to the end of the track, all that money, that house, those cars, they have to put them on the side of the road, because they are really NOTHING.

Place experiences above possessions.
 

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I have to say to the original poster, I'm in the same situation.

I graduated with a degree in Clinical Lab Science and currently hate the major I"m going into and am trying to switch directions. I'm terrified to wake up in the morning and check my email to hear word from job recruiters, I hate going to job interviews because I have to preent myself to interviewers for a job I despise. My lack of enthusaium shows, I can't help it. I spend alot of my day procrastinating and it's definitely affecting my self-esteem.

What's helping me out alot now is talking to lots of different people. I talk to my friends parents, people I meet in daily life, old teachers, friends, career advisors to get as much help as I want. But I think mostly it comes down to me. I have to get passionate about what I want. No one else can solve this but me.
 

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With your command of the english language- even working as editor, for a large publishing company sounds good. Every software company, needs a good proofreader too. They cannot afford to release stuff with grammatical errors, and misspellings. Use your degree.......or lose it- it's entirely up to you!!!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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