"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HELP - Scared of life,scared of getting a job.

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Latinoman said:
If he wants to work for an Embassy or the U.S. State Department...the fact that he has worked as a teacher overseas would be a plus in his resume.
:up: Also, the multicultural experience is good preparation for a corporate job in international business, or working as an interpreter....not to mention there is plenty of opportunities teaching English right here, in the US.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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iqqi

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If the idea of picking a career is agony for you, then don't.

All the money in the world means nothing when you come to the end of the road. All those people, slaving away for money, their train ain't moving no slower than yours! And when they get to the end of the track, all that money, that house, those cars, they have to put them on the side of the road, because they are really NOTHING.

Place experiences above possessions.
 

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I have to say to the original poster, I'm in the same situation.

I graduated with a degree in Clinical Lab Science and currently hate the major I"m going into and am trying to switch directions. I'm terrified to wake up in the morning and check my email to hear word from job recruiters, I hate going to job interviews because I have to preent myself to interviewers for a job I despise. My lack of enthusaium shows, I can't help it. I spend alot of my day procrastinating and it's definitely affecting my self-esteem.

What's helping me out alot now is talking to lots of different people. I talk to my friends parents, people I meet in daily life, old teachers, friends, career advisors to get as much help as I want. But I think mostly it comes down to me. I have to get passionate about what I want. No one else can solve this but me.
 

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With your command of the english language- even working as editor, for a large publishing company sounds good. Every software company, needs a good proofreader too. They cannot afford to release stuff with grammatical errors, and misspellings. Use your degree.......or lose it- it's entirely up to you!!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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