"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Elnihilisto

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Im new and this is my first post.I need you help guys.
So to make the story short:
Met this girl at work during the break time,i was chatting to some friends when I see this chick staring at me.So I continue chatting to my mates but subtly introduce her to the conversation,we get along fine,we finally exchange numbers...etc.During the next 3 days we have encountered eachother a couple of times in which she usually was flirty and friendly.Friday evening we met again and she asks me if I wanna hang out with her on Saturday.We meet on Saturday and nothing really happens we chat and seem to have fun(it wasn't the right moment for a kiss or that is what I thought)but for a first date it went pretty good.For the next days we meet during the break and chat,hug,flirt it seemed like she was giving me the "green light" so to say.Tuesday evening,yesterday,we hanged out with our group of friends and when they all left she gives me this look(like "kiss me now") and I do kiss her.We have a long kiss and she seems to be in heaven,and after that we hug and seem like we're made for eachother.It all goes fine but the next day ,wednesday, she gives me this weird message "I don't wanna hurt your feelings,im not really in a mood for a relationship,bla bla bla".......We meet and she seems flirty and friendly again.Thanks for reading my "little" story now the question:what should I do?(ps:sorry for my English it's not my native language)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dgwizdal

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lol - you're too easy and this sounds like you're 12.
 

HyperAnalyze

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Invite her to your place and bang her.

I honestly don't know how old you are OP, but you need to strike while the iron is scalding hot.

Don't get sucked into the friendzone. ESCALATE as fast as you can.
 

DragonBlood

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Elnihilisto said:
We have a long kiss and she seems to be in heaven,and after that we hug and seem like we're made for eachother.
And? You should have moved things further than a hug. Not in the mood for a relationship is BS, she is backwards rationalising her actions and why she stopped at the kiss. Just escalate further when you kiss again.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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the_great_gaia

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she doesn't want to be in a relationship, as everyone else has said. she wants to have "fun". She wants sex, but.. she is going to want to have "fun" with other guys too, and she's hoping that you can understand that, because if you end up "falling" for her, she is going to hang you like a towel. good luck.
 

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when she said be on a realationship, you should ahve said, and "who the hell mentioned anything about a relationship?"

but in anycase just escalate or better yet look for more girls.
 

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A few days passed and she still cold,cold as ice.You guys think I should stop pursuing her?(ps:during these days I kinda kept a low profile with her)Any tips?
 
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