"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Comfortably_Numb

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OK, so I had to stay after school the other day and I was in the cafeteria. The cheerleaders were in there practicing. Then the girl I have a crush on walked in and joined the other cheerleaders. Well, I never really see her anywhere else around school, so this is pretty much my only shot to talk to her. [There are football games, but when I went to the one last Friday I noticed she was never alone. (When she had breaks from cheering she was hanging out with the other cheerleaders.)]

So, my problem is this: I don't know how I could approach her (I think it'd be best at practice, at the game she's with other girls and I don't think I could even get to her anyways), don't know what to say, do, etc.

I'd appreciate any help. If it matters, I'm 16. :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BlakeW5

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Hot chicks are rarely alone. If you want to talk to an attractive chick (especially at school or in a social setting) expect to have to deal with her friends also.

There are plenty of ways you can approach her. Do a search and look around on the forum. Chances are you'll find something you like or that fits your situation. Don't think you need an opener though. You can always just walk up and talk to her and her friends.

The two of you don't have classes together or take the same class at different times do you?
 

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BlakeW5 said:
Hot chicks are rarely alone. If you want to talk to an attractive chick (especially at school or in a social setting) expect to have to deal with her friends also.

There are plenty of ways you can approach her. Do a search and look around on the forum. Chances are you'll find something you like or that fits your situation. Don't think you need an opener though. You can always just walk up and talk to her and her friends.

The two of you don't have classes together or take the same class at different times do you?
I wouldn't think so. She's a senior and I'm a junior.
 

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It sounds difficult to do, talk to a popular girl who is a year older and you have no classes with her.

My advice is to put her on the back burner and game other chicks, I know you have a crush on her but just forget that for a while and game easier girls.

Leave this one up to chance, ex. a good oppertunity to approach her
Not a perfect oppertunity, but a good oppertunity. Guys spend years waiting for that perfect oppertunity that will never come.


Because I dunno about your high school but in my high school, walking up to her and her friends and trying to talk to them wouldnt fly for a second. You gotta know at least a couple of them or you will come off as fcking weird.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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